Man Doesn’t Want His Wife To Take Part In Designing The Basement Because He Wants To Turn It Into A Man Cave

When do men stop playing with toys? Never.

Their toys just become bigger and more expensive. And, of course, they need space to play with these toys and store them.

That’s what man dens are for. If you are not familiar with this term, maybe you’ve heard of man caves.

It’s the same concept. Basically, it is a space where men can have big-screen TVs, Sony PlayStation, pinball machines, and other items they can enjoy in solitude, separated from the rest of the family.

This concept is not well received by women, though, and it is not hard to see why. One Redditor shared his problem with his man den.

He just bought a house with his wife, and they are both young and want to start a family. They are well off, thanks to sound business decisions they’ve made in high school and through college, so they were able to afford a nice big house.

Besides several bedrooms and baths, the house also has two living spaces, one of which is in the basement, so the OP wants to convert it into a man cave. That didn’t sit well with his wife.

Now he is asking the Reddit crowd to help him understand what he did wrong.

OP shared his problem:

He and his wife just got married. They are obviously financial geniuses because they've managed to save enough to buy a house at such a young age.

Being good with numbers probably took its toll on OP’s people skills, and he did something inconsiderate.

His wife can't understand why he would want to exclude her from designing the basement. Additionally, the fact that he can claim a large portion of the house just for himself doesn't sit right with her.

OP can’t understand what’s wrong because he had “generously” let her design the common areas…

OP really wants a space in the house that would be just his own...

Redditors were not very supportive of OP.

This is a good point.

Excellent comparison...

What does mom need hobbies for?

Well, it was very generous of him...

Women like beer and sports too...

Lady Lair. Excellent name.

Yes, the audacity here is unbelievable.

If it is a joint purchase, people should use it together...

Men need a place to relax...

That's all that women actually want, according to most men...

Some married couples use dens together, and it is great.

OP posted an update.

Redditors made a point.

And he will take their advice.

Buying a house to raise a family and then instantly choosing an enormous part of it to be a man den sends mixed signals. It is as if the husband expects his wife to take care of the kids and do chores while he relaxes in his man den.

So, where is the woman’s dedicated space? Where will she go to be alone?

This seems a bit unfair to the wife. It is as if OP is sending a message about his vision of their future life.

It is no wonder his wife is angry.