Man Doesn’t Want His Wife To Take Part In Designing The Basement Because He Wants To Turn It Into A Man Cave
And he wonders why his wife is angry....
Some couples split chores, bills, and weekend plans, but this one hit a snag over the basement. A man who just bought a house with his wife wants to turn the lower level into a man cave, and she is not thrilled about being left out of the design.
The pair are young, newly married, and financially comfortable enough to afford a large home with extra living space. The problem is that the husband sees one of those spaces as his personal retreat, while his wife thinks a shared home should stay shared.
Now the basement plans have turned into a bigger argument about fairness, space, and what married life is supposed to look like. Read on.
OP shared his problem:
He and his wife just got married. They are obviously financial geniuses because they've managed to save enough to buy a house at such a young age.
Being good with numbers probably took its toll on OP’s people skills, and he did something inconsiderate.
His wife can't understand why he would want to exclude her from designing the basement. Additionally, the fact that he can claim a large portion of the house just for himself doesn't sit right with her.
OP can’t understand what’s wrong because he had “generously” let her design the common areas…
OP really wants a space in the house that would be just his own...
Redditors were not very supportive of OP.
This is a good point.
Like the Reddit poster who wanted personal space from in-laws, this couple’s basement argument turns into a boundary battle.
Excellent comparison...
What does mom need hobbies for?
Well, it was very generous of him...
Women like beer and sports too...
Lady Lair. Excellent name.
Yes, the audacity here is unbelievable.
If it is a joint purchase, people should use it together...
Men need a place to relax...
That's all that women actually want, according to most men...
Some married couples use dens together, and it is great.
OP posted an update.
Redditors made a point.
And he will take their advice.
Buying a house to raise a family and then instantly choosing an enormous part of it to be a man den sends mixed signals. It is as if the husband expects his wife to take care of the kids and do chores while he relaxes in his man den.
So, where is the woman’s dedicated space? Where will she go to be alone?
This seems a bit unfair to the wife. It is as if OP is sending a message about his vision of their future life.
It is no wonder his wife is angry.
Before you pick paint colors, see what happened when a “surprise gaming room” caused a fight after moving in together: surprise gaming room sparks conflict.
