Man Tells His Stepmom The Real Reason Why He Isn't Close With His Father
His dad was never a real father to him.
A father blaming his child for his wife's death—it's a circumstance we often see in stories and movies. Sadly, it happens in real life.
Maternal mortality is real. In 2020, 861 women were reported to have died in the U.S. due to maternal causes, compared to 754 in 2019. Furthermore, the maternal mortality rate was 23.8 deaths per 100,000 live births, which is up from 20.1 in 2019.
Children are never at fault for what happens to their mothers. Not growing up with a mother is already tough for a child.
No matter what happens, the little ones deserve the love and care of their remaining parents. This isn't the case with one Redditor, though.
A user named toldhiswifeee is estranged from his dad. Right after birth, he was left with his aunt.
The guy had his fair share of challenges growing up without the presence of his real parents. According to the original poster, he was rejected by his dad his entire life.
A chance to reconcile finally came when his dad's wife wanted to meet him.
The wife never knew how bad of a parent his dad was. In other words, the father lied about the estranged relationship with his son.
The original poster couldn't accept his dad's excuses, so he told the truth to his stepmom. Naturally, the wife became upset.
Now, the original poster feels guilty for potentially ruining the marriage. He asked the community if he was wrong for telling the truth.
What the original poster's childhood looked like
toldhiswifeeeAnybody would get emotionally scarred if they went through the same experience.
toldhiswifeeeThe calm before the storm
toldhiswifeee
His father never intended to reconcile with his son; it was only for the sake of his wife.
toldhiswifeee
Again, the father blames the son, which is unfair. He was the one who started it.
toldhiswifeee
The problem was just too deep to be ignored.
toldhiswifeee
One Redditor described the a**holeness of the dad.
unpopularcryptonite, toldhiswifeee
The dad got what he deserved.
Material_Cellist4133
After 27 years, the father still refuses to see that it's all his fault.
GoodGirlsGrace
"Every secret will be known."
GoodGirlsGrace
Not the original poster's fault; the dad brought it upon himself.
GoodGirlsGrace
In other words, the original poster's grandparents are tolerating the abuse from the dad.
HRHArgyll
The words he needed to hear.
Maersiel, toldhiswifeee, wheelperson
It's all the dad's fault, which all started when he destroyed his son's life.
LootTheHounds
Although it hurts, the situation works in favor of the original poster's stepmom. Now, she knows the true colors of her husband.
noblestromana, swuee_bastard
A relationship built on lies will eventually crumble.
portezbie, unpopularcryptonite
Redditors are on the original poster's side.
lexkixass
Karma is real. What goes around comes around.
lexkixass
Perhaps the stepmom realized she married a monster.
Diomedes42, honeymochie
What if the stepmom dies during childbirth as well? The cycle will continue.
Spongiie
She needs to know that she married a despicable man.
Outrageous-Yogurt-80, toldhiswifeee
People are applauding the aunt for being the original poster's pillar of strength.
tooawkwrd, nickyfox13, toldhiswifeee
The lies made by the dad are completely unfair. After all, he caused the estrangement.
wildferalfun
Obviously, the dad has no plans to make amends.
miyuki_m
The lies had to be exposed, even if it caused the marriage to be on the rocks.
The truth hurt the relationship, and that's because the original poster's father suddenly had to face the consequences of the horrible things he did in the past.
Perhaps it's better for the original poster to stay out of his father's life for good. He doesn't need the unnecessary headache caused by the person who brought him so much pain.
