Man Tells His Stepmom The Real Reason Why He Isn't Close With His Father
His dad was never a real father to him.
A father blaming his child for his wife's death is the kind of family wound that can last for years. In this Reddit story, one man says that is exactly what happened to him after he was left with his aunt as a baby.
He grew up without real support from his dad, and the distance only got worse over time. Years later, his father's new wife wanted to meet him, but the meeting quickly exposed how much had been hidden.
Now the truth is out, the marriage is shaken, and he is left wondering whether telling the truth made him the bad guy.
What the original poster's childhood looked like
toldhiswifeeeAnybody would get emotionally scarred if they went through the same experience.
toldhiswifeeeThe calm before the storm
toldhiswifeee
His father never intended to reconcile with his son; it was only for the sake of his wife.
toldhiswifeee
Again, the father blames the son, which is unfair. He was the one who started it.
toldhiswifeee
That's when the family tension really started to show.
The problem was just too deep to be ignored.
toldhiswifeee
One Redditor described the a**holeness of the dad.
unpopularcryptonite, toldhiswifeee
The dad got what he deserved.
Material_Cellist4133
After 27 years, the father still refuses to see that it's all his fault.
GoodGirlsGrace
"Every secret will be known."
GoodGirlsGrace
Not the original poster's fault; the dad brought it upon himself.
GoodGirlsGrace
In other words, the original poster's grandparents are tolerating the abuse from the dad.
HRHArgyll
The words he needed to hear.
Maersiel, toldhiswifeee, wheelperson
It's all the dad's fault, which all started when he destroyed his son's life.
LootTheHounds
That changed the mood fast.
It’s the same kind of emotional fallout as a son excluding his father from graduation after he chose work over milestones.
Although it hurts, the situation works in favor of the original poster's stepmom. Now, she knows the true colors of her husband.
noblestromana, swuee_bastard
A relationship built on lies will eventually crumble.
portezbie, unpopularcryptonite
Redditors are on the original poster's side.
lexkixass
Karma is real. What goes around comes around.
lexkixass
Perhaps the stepmom realized she married a monster.
Diomedes42, honeymochie
What if the stepmom dies during childbirth as well? The cycle will continue.
Spongiie
She needs to know that she married a despicable man.
Outrageous-Yogurt-80, toldhiswifeee
People are applauding the aunt for being the original poster's pillar of strength.
tooawkwrd, nickyfox13, toldhiswifeee
The lies made by the dad are completely unfair. After all, he caused the estrangement.
wildferalfun
Obviously, the dad has no plans to make amends.
miyuki_m
The truth had to come out somehow.
The lies had to be exposed, even if it caused the marriage to be on the rocks.
The truth hurt the relationship, and that's because the original poster's father suddenly had to face the consequences of the horrible things he did in the past.
Perhaps it's better for the original poster to stay out of his father's life for good. He doesn't need the unnecessary headache caused by the person who brought him so much pain.
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