Mother-in-Law Pierces Baby's Ears Without Mom or Dad's Permission

One family visit turned into a parenting nightmare when a grandmother made a permanent decision without asking first.

The parents had already talked about what they were comfortable with, including ear piercing, and they did not want it done without their say-so. But when the baby was picked up, the mother noticed the piercing had already happened, and the fallout was immediate.

Now the family is split, and the question is simple: was this a harmless tradition, or a serious breach of trust? Read on.

She starts off telling the story on Reddit.

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She discusses their cultural differences.

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If her husband isn't worried about it, then they do as they please.

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This is common among many different cultures.

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She talks about ear piercing and what she and her husband are comfortable with.

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She explains her perspective on the matter.

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She states that she has expressed these feelings to her mother-in-law.

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It's never been an issue until this one time.

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That is where the story takes a sharp turn.

Looking for more parenting power struggles? See the AITA mom who fought her mother-in-law over private school.

Then she explains that when she came to pick up her daughter, she saw the piercing.

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Next, she describes how she and her husband felt about the decision that was made.

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She decides she doesn't want her mother-in-law alone with their kids for this reason.

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This mother wants to know if she is the a*shole in this situation.

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Then the first comment rolled in, stating that she's NTA.

wigglebuttbiscuits

I definitely agree with this comment.

RickGrimesBeard23

More people seem to be siding with the mom.

It clearly seems that people are on her side regarding this.

loki93009

Your family should respect your decisions about your child, and if they can't, then they shouldn't be around your child.

ConcreteQuixote

Another commenter stated that she's NTA. It seems that most are in agreement.

bumdermcchunder

Traditions can be newly created. You don't have to adhere to the same traditions your family had; create your own.

snow_angel022968

That point lands with a lot of readers.

People are asking about the culture because, apparently, that's a common tradition among many families.

Maxguevara2019

It's nice to see all of the comments in unison about the situation.

abitdark

After reading this story, I think we can all agree that the mother-in-law was definitely in the wrong. Parents seem to constantly have to fight about decisions made for their children, but they shouldn't have to do this.

What do you think about this story? Was the mother or the mother-in-law in the wrong?

Boundary crossed, trust broken.

Wait until you see how she set boundaries with her critical mother-in-law, and it blew up.