Redditor Calls Out FIL And His Four Brothers For Their Misogynistic Behavior And Bans Them From Seeing Her Daughter Ever Again
She picked up her daughter and said she could no longer tolerate the misogynistic behavior and would be leaving.
A 28-year-old woman didn’t just get mad at a rude comment, she went nuclear on her FIL and his four brothers. The reason? Their misogynistic behavior wasn’t subtle, and it was getting close to her daughter in ways that made her furious.
It started with those “jokes” that landed way too hard, including one uncle suggesting OP’s daughter should be paid to kiss him when she’s older. OP snapped, picked up her daughter, and told everyone she was done tolerating it. Then she left, because apparently apologies are only useful when they are real.
By the time her MIL showed up to smooth things over, the family dinner was already on thin ice, and the granddaughter’s access became the battleground.
The original poster started by saying she was "furious" and needed to "vent."
Reddit/DuckballisrollingOne of the uncles even made a comment about paying OP's daughter to kiss him when she's older.
Reddit/DuckballisrollingOP picked up her daughter and said she could no longer tolerate the misogynistic behavior and would be leaving.
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Addressing Misogyny in Family Dynamics
Research indicates that challenging harmful norms often requires courage and can lead to significant shifts in family dynamics.
In this case, the mother's decision to ban her father-in-law and his brothers reflects a strong stance against misogyny that can empower other family members.
Later on, the OP added some updates to her post.
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OP and her husband agreed that she would only meet up with him if someone else was there too.
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So, OP's FIL and MIL came over to talk, and more non-genuine apologies ensued.
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That “pay her to kiss him” comment was the moment OP realized this wasn’t just bad manners from her FIL’s side, it was a pattern.</p>
Studies show that confronting misogyny can be a catalyst for change within families, as highlighted in the Journal of Family Psychology.
When family members stand up against harmful behavior, it often encourages others to reflect on their own views and behaviors.
This can create a more respectful environment and open the door for positive discussions about gender equality.
OP told her FIL that she would never allow his brothers to be around her daughter again, no matter what.
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OP's MIL was upset to learn of the comments that had been said behind her back.
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OP did agree to give her FIL another chance to redeem himself and have a relationship with his granddaughter. But she says she will be watching him "like a hawk," and he knows it.
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Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining personal integrity and emotional well-being.
Here's how people reacted.
Reddit/PM_Me_Your_Sidepods
"You were subjected to rampant insults."
Reddit/DaddyGoodHands
"Good for you."
Reddit/FingHateReddit
After OP left with her daughter, she and her husband set the rule that she would only meet with FIL when someone else was present, no exceptions.</p>
Families should engage in discussions about gender roles and expectations to foster understanding and respect.
Creating a safe space for dialogue can help family members express their views and learn from one another.
This approach can cultivate a more inclusive and supportive family environment.
"Your daughter will remember this."
Reddit/MrsNuggs
"You did the right thing to protect your daughter."
Reddit/chaos_is_a_ladder
"Protect your daughter from these people."
Reddit/Merly85
WTF?
Reddit/0Megabyte
No respect. No grandchildren.
Reddit/windraver
"You handled this perfectly."
Reddit/SgathTraillair
"Rampant misogyny."
Reddig/500CatsTypingStuff
Freeze them out!
Reddit/gcaledonian
"What an enormous turd!"
Reddit/CircusFit
"You did the right thing."
Reddit/sunflowerwithketchup
It's just damage control.
Reddit/ShyMagpie
Classic deflection.
Reddit/Black-Thirteen
"Well done!"
Reddit/MixWitch
Okay, but what did he mean?
Reddit/twistedspin
Valuable lessons.
Reddit/syl_vaticaa
"Good on you."
Reddit/JoRollover
"Bravo."
Reddit/vemailangah
When MIL and FIL came over for “apologies,” OP still made it crystal clear that his brothers will never be around her daughter again.</p>
Even with a second chance for FIL to redeem himself, OP says she’ll be watching him “like a hawk,” so the pressure stays on.</p>
What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP overreacted, or was she doing the right thing to protect her daughter from such inappropriate behavior?
There's no denying that OP's FIL and his brothers need to change their behavior. There is no place for misogyny, and that's all there is to it!
We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.
This incident highlights the ongoing struggle to confront misogyny within family structures.
Now FIL is realizing the only thing he gets to “joke” about is how badly he messed up his relationship with his granddaughter.
Still wondering whether to confront relatives, see how a 35F challenged her MIL after she ruined her marriage, and asked for an apology.
