Moment Lady Gives Her Fiance An Ultimatum Regarding His Money-Leeching Relatives

We’re taught to take care of family, to help where we can, and to step up when someone needs us. But what happens when that expectation stops being about support and becomes a demand?

When earning more doesn’t feel like a privilege but a responsibility—an unspoken contract that says your success is theirs to claim? The OP has seen it happen in her fiancé's life.

His family and relatives believe they're entitled to his fiancée's money because his income is more than all of their incomes combined. Every small windfall, every raise, every bonus became a silent ledger in their mind.

It wasn’t about generosity anymore but about obligation. It was as if OP's fiancé felt guilty for wanting boundaries, for wanting to keep some of what he's worked for, and for dreaming of a life that isn’t defined by how much you can subsidize everyone else.

The OP had a job and worked 60 hours per week, but she had to quit because her former boss owes her several thousand dollars in back wages and refuses to pay it. Moreso, OP's fiancé doesn't want her to work because he prefers she take care of the home.

The OP and her fiancé have had arguments about his letting people take advantage of him. It got to a point where the OP just had to give an ultimatum, and you can read all about it below.

The OP writes...

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It's enough to live on

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Making a mess of the household finances

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And the comments roll in...

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Good luck OP

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Ultimatums get bad reputations

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He's not going to change

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To the comment above, the OP replied saying...

I think he can change. We rented a basement apartment from his uncle, and the uncle is a drug addict. We always paid rent in full, on time, but his uncle never stopped asking for more money. We were stuck living there for 3 years. The day finally came when he decided to tell his uncle to stop asking for money. The utilities were constantly being shut off because his uncle wasn't paying the bills. It only took us 2 months to save and move into our house after he stopped financing his uncle's drug use. *All of his money went towards our rent and to his uncle. My money payed for our groceries, phone bills, and other expenses. We were earning much less money at that time, and both of us obtained jobs earning more money at the time he told his uncle to stop asking us for money.

And the comments continues...

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His biggest issue is...

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They'll never stop

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Get a job!

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Sometimes life forces a choice: stay silent and let others take what’s yours, or speak up and set a boundary they cannot ignore. The OP gave an ultimatum—not to punish, but to protect her and her family.

It wasn’t about controlling anyone; it was about claiming their future. Ultimatums aren’t threats; they’re declarations: making one is hard, but staying silent can cost you everything.

Redditors understood that, and the OP was declared not the AH.