Ex Causes Drama After Woman Allows Son To Gift His Nanny For Valentine’s Day

A 28-year-old woman thought Valentine’s Day would be simple. Her son wanted to give his nanny a card and chocolates, a sweet little gesture meant to say, “Thanks for taking care of me.”

Then her ex chimed in with a hard stop. He said it was inappropriate for their kid to be handing the nanny gifts on Valentine’s Day, and suddenly the whole thing felt like it had a hidden meaning. The OP, now replaying the conversation in her head, worries she should have warned him before agreeing to what her son wanted to do.

Now she’s stuck trying to figure out if she caused drama for no reason, or if her ex was right to shut it down.

The OP kicks off her story...

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He said it was inappropriate for their son to be giving his nanny chocolates or a card on Valentine’s day

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The OP feels like she might have been in the wrong and caused problems for no reason

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That’s when the ex’s “inappropriate” comment about chocolates and a card landed like a bomb in the middle of an otherwise normal Valentine’s plan.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

The nanny is hired by my ex so in hindsight I should’ve told him before agreeing to what my son wanted to do.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

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The action is not inappropriate in any way

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This echoes the partner who demanded a cat be rehomed due to a severe allergy ultimatum.

Some people are so trapped to the idea of sexualization

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They are se*ualizing wht was clearly a nice gesture

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Showing someone you love and appreciate them is a great thing

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It's a bit weird that they jumped to inappropriate

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School kids do bring in Valentine cards for classmates

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What OP's son did is a totally sweet thing

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The OP even admits she didn’t mention the nanny arrangement ahead of time, because the nanny is hired by her ex, not her.

Meanwhile, Redditors are arguing that people are overreacting, saying the gesture is no different than kids bringing Valentine cards to classmates.

And the loudest point in the thread is basically this, if the nanny takes good care of the OP’s son, the ex should be grateful, not suspicious.

Valentine's Day is a celebration of all sorts of relationships, even though it is frequently connected to romantic love. Participating in the spirit of giving doesn't require a significant other.

Giving is a sign of love and concern, regardless of the recipient—a friend, a relative, or even a coworker. In this case, it's a nanny, and there is nothing wrong with gifting.

Besides, it shows the nanny is taking good care of the OP's son, and her ex should be happy instead. Redditors clearly understood the OP's point of view, and she was declared not the AH.

He might be happier if he stopped turning a thank-you gift into a whole scandal.

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