Man Asks If He'll Be AH For Evicting His Ex Sister-In-Law Who Moved Into His House Without Permission
"Oh, let her live there; they can't get along with our mother."
Some people don’t recognize a favor. OP thought he was letting his ex-sister-in-law have a place to land, but it turned into a full-on takeover of his rental house.
Here’s the mess: OP owns the house, his ex-sister-in-law moved in without permission, and now he’s asking Reddit if he’d be the AH for telling them to vacate so he can sell the property. It gets worse because OP says their side of the family has been using his house while his own car is the one stuck in “15-year-old” territory, especially after OP discovered the ex-mother-in-law paid off about $30,000 in credit card debt and they both bought new cars.
Now he’s stuck wondering if kicking them out is “mean,” or just finally enforcing the rules they ignored.
OP writes
Reddit/Pete-Turley-Here"WIBTA if I asked them to vacate the house so I could sell it?"
Reddit/Pete-Turley-HereOP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
Would I be the AH if I kicked my ex-sister-in-law out of the rental house I own, which she moved into without my permission?
And the comments from other Redditors roll in...
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OP’s kids are already calling him the AH, even though the ex-sister-in-law moved in without his permission in the first place.
This situation exemplifies how the absence of defined limits can lead to significant complications in shared living arrangements.
According to the OP's kids, he's the AH
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OP can still evict them
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OP let this go on for so long
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The $30,000 credit card payoff and the new cars are what really flipped the switch for OP, especially when he’s still driving a 15-year-old car.
When boundaries are respected, individuals can coexist peacefully and avoid unnecessary conflict.
Conversely, when boundaries are violated, it often leads to feelings of betrayal and heightened tensions.
This is similar to the sibling who moved back home, and the OP debating whether to charge rent.
OP is being used by all of them
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OP dropped this in the comments
When my ex-mother-in-law dies, they'll move back into their house that my mother-in-law spent money to fix and update, leaving me with three more years of wear and tear on mine. It wouldn't have upset me quite as much until I found out my mother-in-law paid off their old credit card debts to the tune of $30,000, and then they both bought new cars. I drive a 15-year-old car.I told the ex, and she just said, "Well, they both work, so they can make the payments." Yeah, since they don't pay rent and don't have credit card payments anymore. She didn't know I knew that.
OP should grow a spine
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She's not a dog
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When OP’s ex shrugged and said they can make payments, he clarified in the comments that they don’t pay rent and their old credit card bills are gone.
Discussing potential issues before they arise can prevent misunderstandings and foster mutual respect.
Research confirms that proactive communication helps mitigate conflicts and enhances relationships among housemates.
A formal eviction process
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A married woman is called a wife
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It is the OP's property
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With the ex-mother-in-law dead in the timeline, OP expects everyone to come back into the house he owns, which is why he’s pushing for eviction now.
To navigate this situation effectively, establishing a house agreement outlining each person's responsibilities and expectations can be beneficial.
Regular check-ins to discuss any concerns or changes can help ensure that everyone feels heard and respected.
Therapeutic approaches, such as family therapy or mediation, can also assist in addressing underlying issues and improving communication.
There are times when the housing market is crazy, with people paying excessive amounts without conducting inspections.
The article illustrates how her unauthorized move into his home has disrupted the balance of their living situation.
He might not be the AH, but the family dinner did not end well for his patience.
Before you evict your ex-sister-in-law, check out a Redditor asking if they should charge their parents rent for overstaying.
