Mother Sets Common-Sense Rule For Son’s Girlfriend And Gets Explosive Reaction
"My room has always been a common room and that was the understanding"
Everybody has the right to feel safe and at ease in their own homes, and this right does not lessen with age. Additionally, it remains the same whether we have a long-term or short-term partner, adult kid, or friend living with us.
A lot of living and visiting arrangements are successful. However, circumstances that seem good at first can occasionally change with time.
Attitudes and behaviors can slowly seep in and make us feel uncomfortable and helpless. Because the changes have been slow or uneven, we might not even be aware of the precise reason for our current discomfort.
However, anything that causes us to feel unsafe or unpleasant in our own homes is unacceptable, and the original poster knew that. The thing is, OP's two sons live in a house she owns.
She has them paying only utilities because it's a known fact that times are tough. The younger son has a girlfriend, Liz, and ever since the OP moved out, Liz has been inviting herself over whenever she wants, even when her boyfriend is not home.
The OP had no problem with it until her oldest son was sharing a story. Want to know all about it? Read the entire story in the OP's own words below.
The OP kickstarts his story saying...
RedditThe living room was always vancant because OP's kids liked his room
RedditHe was on the futon in the corner and the son's girlfriend was in the bed
Reddit
His gf is uncomfortable with the other son being around in his house
Reddit
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
My son thinks im making an unreasonable request and that im the AHAnd the comments roll in...
Reddit
OP's son shouldn't have to leave the room
Reddit
The living room should act as the living room
Reddit
As simple as that
Reddit
The OP went a step further to answer common questions
- Why do I have a room at a house I dont live in?** **
I wanted a room for me to stay in when ever I came into town to avoid paying a hotel as I come visit frequently when its warmer weather.
- Do they have own rooms?
Yes each has their own room aside from mine.
-Why was youngest allowed to move bed?
I asked other kid if it was okay he had no issues with it as long as he could still go hang in there. Now theres issues so youngest will be moving bed.
-Why is gf there when hes not there?
No idea she invites herself over.
-Do I like her?
Doesn't matter if I like her or not, my son picked her its his issue. I had no issues with her until she created issues in a home my sons share.
The comments continues...
Reddit
All women aren't like this
Reddit
He's an AH too
Reddit
She can nap there
Reddit
As you've read, Redditors say the son's GF shouldn't be sleeping in that room, and it will continue to be a shared area. It's clear that OP's son has always felt at ease in that room and probably has wonderful memories there, so it is terrible that this GF ruined it.
According to many Redditors, it's the OP's home, and if his son doesn't like the rules, he can find an apartment of his own. Drop your own verdict in the comment section, and don't forget to share as well.
