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Adult Daughter Gets Upset At Family For Forgetting About Her When They Ate Out Because Of Her 7-Year-Old Niece

It's more complicated than it seems.

Adult Daughter Gets Upset At Family For Forgetting About Her When They Ate Out Because Of Her 7-Year-Old Niece

More often than not, adults in the family tend to pay more special attention to the youngest members, and that's understandable. They're kids; they're young, and they don't know much about the world yet.

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They need supervision, and they also need attention to grow into decent human beings who can contribute to the community. That's why older kids and other family members often let them get away with much more.

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However, other people need attention from the grown-ups too, especially their own parents. Just because they know how to fend for themselves doesn't mean that their need, or at least their desire, for their parents ever fades.

There are moments when we also want to celebrate with our dear parents, and even though we're old enough to care for ourselves, we still want to feel that our parents care for us. In this AmITheAsshole story for today, it seems that our OP wasn't able to feel that because their parents would rather shower their attention on their 7-year-old niece.

Now, this may sound a lot like jealousy, but trust us, it's a little more complicated than that. Here's the whole story.

Here we go.

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There's a large age gap.

There's a large age gap.shevon_lim
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"Very important piano recital"

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"Both our families decided to have a night out for dinner."

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"I am stranded"

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"So we went off!"

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A lot of people in the comments were understandably disgruntled by OP's parents' treatment of her. Not only did they miss a once-in-a-lifetime event for their daughter, but they also showed that they had little regard for their own child.

Yes, she's an adult, but parenting doesn't stop just because children have grown. Here are the top comments.

Them missing that big event in OP's life says a lot about how they really think about their own child

Them missing that big event in OP's life says a lot about how they really think about their own childbad-luck-psyduck

Hopefully, they realize their mistake sooner rather than later

Hopefully, they realize their mistake sooner rather than latershevon_lim

These parents will lose a lot more if they don't get their act together

These parents will lose a lot more if they don't get their act togetherbeemojee

Let's see how they feel if they even notice that their child isn't there, of course

Let's see how they feel if they even notice that their child isn't there, of coursefrancescatoo

That really must have hurt because OP worked so hard for her graduation and her honors, and her parents didn't even congratulate her

That really must have hurt because OP worked so hard for her graduation and her honors, and her parents didn't even congratulate herkdawg1791

They didn't even realize their own wrongdoings

They didn't even realize their own wrongdoingsSerious_Lie1207

They'll probably know the reason anyway, but they'll still think it wasn't their fault because they're those kinds of people

They'll probably know the reason anyway, but they'll still think it wasn't their fault because they're those kinds of peoplerak1882

What they did is something only the worst parents do, honestly

What they did is something only the worst parents do, honestlyMuffinLong7006

That's a great idea! She can take care of them when they're old and need help while she's at it too.

That's a great idea! She can take care of them when they're old and need help while she's at it too.Unggue_Pot

They obviously aren't making the effort to show that they still care, so why burden them?

They obviously aren't making the effort to show that they still care, so why burden them?Br0k3nTh0rN1995

Let your parents realize what they've done wrong when they have nothing else to do but think about their past

Let your parents realize what they've done wrong when they have nothing else to do but think about their pastAncient-Transition-4

It's basic courtesy to wait for every member of your party, even if there is a child begging for ice cream. It's just basic human decency.

It's basic courtesy to wait for every member of your party, even if there is a child begging for ice cream. It's just basic human decency.ArcheryOnThursday

OP deserves to be with people who genuinely show that they care about her

OP deserves to be with people who genuinely show that they care about herphyshfood

To sum it up, the majority of OP's family are just a bunch of people who lack human decency and common sense

To sum it up, the majority of OP's family are just a bunch of people who lack human decency and common senseDynkoFromTheNorth

We can't choose our parents, but we can definitely choose whether we want to stay in contact with them or not

We can't choose our parents, but we can definitely choose whether we want to stay in contact with them or notTrustedTriangle

Let's see what happens when she starts making her own decisions

Let's see what happens when she starts making her own decisionsthedelightfulidiot

The child doesn't know what's happening around her yet, but those adults definitely do

The child doesn't know what's happening around her yet, but those adults definitely doCheetah2050

They should really remember that they still have kids of their own

They should really remember that they still have kids of their ownlikecommentsurvive

Just because their kids are adults doesn't mean that their role as parents has ended

Just because their kids are adults doesn't mean that their role as parents has endedethicallywicked

It's time for her to make her own choices and do what's right for her

It's time for her to make her own choices and do what's right for herEducational_Cup9850

Graduating school with high honors is a significant achievement for almost everyone, and it should be one of the proudest moments for parents. However, OP's parents chose to miss out on that important event in their daughter's life.

Hopefully, they can come to a better conclusion about this, but if OP's parents don't fix their act, we think it might be better for her to limit contact with them for the sake of her own health. She deserves to have people in her life who genuinely care about her.

What do you think?

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