A Redditor Revealed The Custody Evaluation For His Kids To His Ex's Family After Being Accused Of Depriving Visitations

Divorces, custody, and legal matters can all be messy. If you’re involved in a tug-of-war over rights, then you know how blurry the lines can be.

There might be a lot of ‘he said, she said,’ and family members have to choose whom to believe, hoping they make the right choice. Unfortunately, kids can get caught in the legal storm, which can significantly hinder their lives.

A Redditor filed for divorce after his ex cheated on him and eventually fell in love with the other person. OP and his ex had 9-year-old twins for whom they fought for custody, but after some disagreements, they settled for 50/50 rights.

OP already had a hunch that his ex wouldn’t be able to hold up her end of the bargain, as her work required her to travel frequently. She did, but only for a short period and only to show face.

When the divorce was finalized, his ex reverted to her old ways, having the kids for about 4 days and, on rare occasions, 6 days a month. They were supposed to have fourteen days each, which didn’t happen, and OP documented the neglect.

Here's the post of OP about his ex

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OP recounted how he ended up filing for divorce

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The proceedings after the divorce instantly got off to a rocky start

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OP gave his ex more chances to improve, but she continued to abuse them

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They saw how OP only did what he had to and ensured the kids would be protected

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He does not prevent contact if they show that they care for the kids

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OP always had to reconsider their plans since the time the kids spent with his ex was very unpredictable. He finally sought physical custody after a year of this situation and won.

His ex tried to prolong the custody evaluation and trial, but it ultimately did not work in her favor due to her lawyer not having much to work with. Now she needs to adhere to a detailed schedule, and after abusing OP’s flexibility with it, OP had her follow it precisely.

OP’s ex’s parents and siblings showed up at his door, accusing him of denying visitations. OP had them read the evaluation by the custody evaluator and asked them to leave. 

The ex’s parents apologized, and soon a call came from none other than the ex herself. She screamed at him for exposing her lies and revealing what was supposed to be a private matter.

OP made it clear that anyone who accused him of wrongdoing because of her lies would be shown the report. Her brother understood what OP showed and somewhat apologized, but her sister still viewed him as the a**hole until he informed her that the kids were in therapy due to the neglect.

Here’s a little insight on what kind of privacy might entail in cases like OP’s

cyberllama

It all depends on what was legally agreed upon, and there are many things that can’t be disclosed to the 'public'

cebolinha50

However, there could also be a case where it isn’t, and you can use it as OP did

sigharewedoneyet

If OP’s ex fed them so many lies that they became angry enough to show up at his door, then revealing the report might be the only way they would believe him

DannyBigD

She wouldn’t get to solely decide what’s private and what’s not

TeepShow76

The ex thought she would get everyone on her side, but it backfired

mamabear421

OP’s ex could’ve simply kept quiet, and none of this would have been exposed

BendingCollegeGrad

NTA vote for OP being the best parent he can be for his kids

Key_Pick_1022

He probably knows his ex well enough to have documented the neglect as it happened

hello_friendss

And slowly, you see their faces fall as the puzzle pieces come together

saveyboy

The fact that OP tried to be flexible with the schedule as long as the kids were involved says a lot, and fortunately, his consideration extended to the grandparents

nicethingsarenicer

A continuation of the comment

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A Redditor who was also a family lawyer offered some advice, as the topic of privacy differs by state

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An inquiry if OP had any knowledge of whether he could share the reports (cont.)

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In the end, even without OP’s definitive answer on whether the files were private or not, his utmost care for his kids was evident to Redditors

XANDERtheSHEEPDOG

There was a mess of lies and deception from OP’s ex, which ultimately affected her rights concerning her children. This was clearly seen by her family as well, and it was a good thing that OP still chose to give chances to those who wanted to love his children.

OP is a parent who wants the best for his kids, and hopefully, that will continue without much hindrance. They are kids who didn’t ask for any of the drama to happen to them.

Do you think OP’s ex will see the error of her ways? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.