Refusing to Share Food with Wife After She Orders Disliked Dishes - AITA?

AITA for refusing to share my food with my wife after she keeps ordering dishes she doesn't like? Opinions are divided on whether I'm in the wrong or standing my ground.

Damjan

Published in Interesting
22 Dec 2025

Refusing to Share Food with Wife After She Orders Disliked Dishes - AITA?

In today’s Reddit thread, we delve into a relatable yet contentious issue many couples face: balancing trying new things with respecting personal preferences when it comes to food. The original poster, a man in his late 20s, shares his experience navigating this culinary conundrum with his adventurous wife, who often orders dishes she has never tried before, only to find herself disappointed.

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After a series of unfortunate meals that left her craving his comfort food, he made a boundary: no more sharing. This decision was met with passive-aggressive behavior from his wife, who expected him to cave and share despite their conversation.

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As he grapples with the repercussions of this decision, he questions whether he is being unreasonable for wanting to maintain his own food preferences and boundaries. This situation raises important questions about communication, compromise, and respect in relationships.

Is it fair for one partner to rely on the other’s meal as a backup plan? Or should each person be responsible for their own choices, even if they lead to disappointment?

Join the discussion as we explore the various perspectives on this food-sharing dilemma and what it reveals about the dynamics of partnership.

Original Post

We're a working couple in our late 20s. Often come home late, around 7 PM, so we regularly dine out, like 2 times a week.

Our country has hundreds of dishes, so we're never out of options. I prefer ordering familier items and try something new only when it's looks too tempting.

I'm a sensitive eater (not picky) as I've strong sensory sensitivity. I get nauseous easily if I eat or smell something I don't like.

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My wife is totally opposite. Half of the times, she tries something new and orders things just by reading their names.

Mostly, she doesn't even know how her order looks like. And mostly, the food she tries isn't good as our comfort food.

So after 2-4 bites, she asks me to split and share each other's food. I always hesitate doing that due to my different food habits as mentioned above.

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She's aware of my nature but asks me to share anyways. It's been 3 times in a row, the food she ordered came out totally bad and I had to give up on half of my food to compensate it, as usual.

Being fed up, recently I clearly told her that I won't be sharing food from now and whatever she orders, it's all upto her even if it doesn't come out good. She agreed in a low voice.

Now yesterday, the same thing happened again and she casually made the same gesture of sharing food. I said no, mentioning our recent talk about it.

She had to finish it all, it spoiled her mood and got passive agressive the rest of the evening AITA