She Booked Her Vacation Year In Advance, And Still Became The Office Villain - One Redditor’s Very Awkward Office Fallout

When it comes to vacation days, Reddit user u/Thebluportal’s workplace runs on seniority, and everyone submits their requests at the same time each year. That means if you have big plans, you need to plan way ahead or work around whatever days are left.

In March 2025, the OP requested the day after MLK Day in January 2026, which is known as a brutal day at work with extra tasks and late nights. Luckily, there was one slot available, and the OP was the only one to request it.

Fast forward to December 2025, a coworker revealed she’s getting married and was hoping the OP would let her know if the day after MLK Day opens up. She already had six days off for the wedding, but was hoping to snag this extra day too.

The OP agreed to keep her in the loop, but a couple of days later, the coworker decided she didn’t want it after all. The OP admitted they probably wouldn’t have canceled anyway.

Later, when overtime was assigned by seniority, the coworker asked the OP to trade spots because she had something going on after work. The OP said no, and the coworker stopped talking to them entirely.

Now, other coworkers seem a little standoffish, too, though the OP isn’t sure if it’s because of something the coworker said. The OP just wanted to stick to their plans and enjoy their vacation day.

The OP didn’t have anything pressing for the overtime and simply didn’t want to give up their day. Now they’re asking if they’re the a**hole for sticking to their guns?

The OP just wanted to stick to their plans and enjoy their vacation day.

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Here’s the original post by Reddit user ‘Thebluportal’.

My job does vacation days by seniority, and we submit the bulk of our vacation requests at the same time every year. So you kind of need to plan ahead if you have big plans, or you need to work around the days that are still available after we submit all our leave requests.When we did this process in March of 2025, I submitted a request for the day after MLK Day in January 2026. The day after a holiday is brutal at my job; there is a lot more work to do, and you are often stuck there late. I have frequently tried to get the day after a federal holiday off. Lucky me, there was one slot available, and I was the only person to request it, so I got it.Fast forward to December of 2025, and a coworker approaches me and tells me she is getting married. This is top-secret info, and she is only telling a few people, but she would really like me to let her know if I cancel my vacation day so she can put in for it. She was able to get six days off for this secret wedding, but she really wanted my day off also. OK, that's fine, I'll let you know. I could tell she was expecting me to immediately agree because she seemed kind of dejected. A day or two later, she tells me she doesn't want it anymore. I said, “OK, I probably wasn't going to cancel it anyway.” She said she thinks I would have because it's a big deal.After this, our relationship at work was about the same still. Which is to say, I hardly know this woman, and we're not friends or anything. Just cordial coworkers. Not long after the vacation day request, there was a point where we were being forced to work overtime based on our seniority level. She was first in line, and I was second. She asked me if I would trade spots with her because she had something going on after work, and I said I didn't want to do that.After that point, she has stopped talking to me entirely. A couple of my other coworkers seem a little standoffish towards me now also. I can only speculate that it is because of something she said, but I don't know for sure. Look, I'm not doing anything on my vacation day. I just don't want to work that day. I put in for that day off almost a year ago. And I didn't want to work overtime that other day either, but I don't have a ton going on. I just flat out didn't want to. Maybe I should have tried to help my coworker out more?AITA for not cancelling my vacation day and not working the overtime for my about-to-be newlywed coworker?

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted.

yourlittlebirdie

YTA.

Dry_Future_852

Life gets messy sometimes.

BeKind999

It was a bit excessive.

Usrname52

They won’t do you any favors in future.

heyitsta12

It was an AH thing to day.

IHaveBoxerDogs

You don’t owe them anything.

ChicknSoop

NTA but not a great coworker.

funlovefun37

It’s your choice.

PearGlum1966

They should’ve asked earlier.

jentuckyfriedchick3n

Life happens.

Right_Cucumber5775

She asked, you answered.

subsailor1968

Her wedding is her problem.

Srvntgrrl_789

So now the Redditor is left wondering if sticking to the rules made them the office bad guy, or if their coworkers simply expected too much. With opinions split and PTO politics clearly undefeated, the internet had one big question left to answer: was this a perfectly reasonable boundary, or a workplace faux pas that went a step too far?