Roommate Drama: Constantly Reminding Them to Lock the Front Door - AITA?

Roommate drama is usually about dishes, but this one is about something way more basic and way more frightening: locking the front door. OP is living in a city apartment suite with three other 18-year-olds, and the issue keeps repeating like an alarm no one wants to hear.

OP, Olivia, Jane, and Crystal signed a roommate contract, and OP says the agreement requires the door to be locked at all times. The problem is Olivia and Crystal “cannot remember” to lock it, even after OP tried the gentle route, then the sign route, then a long group chat message that only got a thumbs up. To make it worse, OP has seen unlocked overnight doors and even had random delivery men show up where they are not supposed to.

After Olivia jokes about leaving the door unlocked, OP wakes up to find it unlocked again, and now she has to decide if she is overreacting or finally drawing a line.

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I (18f) live with three other people, Olivia(18f), Jane (18f) and Crystal (18f). We all go to the same college, and our "dorms" are apartment suite style, hence why it says apartment.

We're in the city, so it's not like we have a campus. We had to sign a roomate contract when we first moved in, and I think that has gone out the window for everyone else.

Besdies how messy Olivia and Crystal are, they also for some reason CANNOT remember to lock the door. I have tried talking nicely about it, no change.

I put one sign on the door, no change. Serious asking in paragraph to please lock the door because it makes me scared!

We have had random delivery men on our floors to which they are not permitted. I have found the door unlocked overnight, it's scary!!

I put up two more signs today on the TV stand, and the fridge, asking to please remember to lock the door!! Our roomate agreement says the door must be locked at all times.

I had a lot of stuff in my hands when entering the apartment, and she told me "huh, would have been easier if you left the door unlocked" I know this was a joke, but I know i'm the butt of it. I asked why she was opposed to locking the door so bad, and Olivia said it was "annoying" to lock it when she came inside, because she was already home.

I told her our agreement said otherwise, but I apparently fell on deaf ears and didn't bother to continue. That's when I sent a long message in our groupchat about it, to which only Crystal responded with a thumbs up.

I later got an apology from Olivia about how she knows it makes me feel safe, and that she may joke but it's not a big deal, and she'll work on locking it more. Yet this morning I found the door had been unlocked all night!

Are you joking!! This is when I put up two more signs.

I don't feel like it's crazy to want the door to be locked, especially when we live in a city, in a dorm with young women. I know they'll be annoyed, but like, Am I the a*****e??

I don't want to be a bad roommate, I just don't feel safe over the door being unlocked, I don't know :((

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The first time OP found the door unlocked overnight, it was already scary, but the lack of urgency from Olivia and Crystal is what really set off alarm bells.

When OP added a sign to the door and then more signs on the TV stand and fridge, Crystal’s thumbs up felt less like support and more like “we are not changing.”

Olivia even joked that it would be easier if OP left the door unlocked, which sounds harmless until you remember random delivery men are showing up on their floors.

The apology from Olivia sounded sincere, but the next morning the door was unlocked all night, so OP went from asking to escalating again with more signs.

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section.

OP is not the villain for wanting a locked door, but her roommates might be testing how many warnings she can take.

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