Roommate Drama: Constantly Reminding Them to Lock the Front Door - AITA?

AITA for constantly reminding my roommates to lock the front door? Despite multiple signs and discussions, their carelessness puts our safety at risk.

Damjan

Published in Interesting
24 Dec 2025

Roommate Drama: Constantly Reminding Them to Lock the Front Door - AITA?

In the bustling world of college life, where shared living spaces can foster both camaraderie and conflict, one student is grappling with a growing concern for her safety in her apartment. In a recent Reddit thread, an 18-year-old female student shared her frustrations with her roommates, who repeatedly fail to lock the front door despite a roommate agreement requiring it to remain secure at all times.

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The OP has taken a variety of approaches to address the situation, from polite conversations to leaving signs around the apartment, all to no avail. With delivery personnel wandering through their floor and the door being left unlocked overnight, she feels increasingly anxious about her living environment.

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What makes this situation even more complex is the mixed reactions from her roommates, who seem to dismiss her concerns as an overreaction or a nuisance. As the OP seeks validation for her feelings, the thread has sparked a lively discussion about roommate dynamics, safety, and effective communication.

Is she being unreasonable in her insistence on a locked door, or is her desire for security a legitimate concern? Join the conversation as we dive into this roommate dilemma and explore various perspectives on navigating shared living arrangements.

Original Post

I (18f) live with three other people, Olivia(18f), Jane (18f) and Crystal (18f). We all go to the same college, and our "dorms" are apartment suite style, hence why it says apartment.

We're in the city, so it's not like we have a campus. We had to sign a roomate contract when we first moved in, and I think that has gone out the window for everyone else.

Besdies how messy Olivia and Crystal are, they also for some reason CANNOT remember to lock the door. I have tried talking nicely about it, no change.

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I put one sign on the door, no change. Serious asking in paragraph to please lock the door because it makes me scared!

We have had random delivery men on our floors to which they are not permitted. I have found the door unlocked overnight, it's scary!!

I put up two more signs today on the TV stand, and the fridge, asking to please remember to lock the door!! Our roomate agreement says the door must be locked at all times.

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I had a lot of stuff in my hands when entering the apartment, and she told me "huh, would have been easier if you left the door unlocked" I know this was a joke, but I know i'm the butt of it. I asked why she was opposed to locking the door so bad, and Olivia said it was "annoying" to lock it when she came inside, because she was already home.

I told her our agreement said otherwise, but I apparently fell on deaf ears and didn't bother to continue. That's when I sent a long message in our groupchat about it, to which only Crystal responded with a thumbs up.

I later got an apology from Olivia about how she knows it makes me feel safe, and that she may joke but it's not a big deal, and she'll work on locking it more. Yet this morning I found the door had been unlocked all night!

Are you joking!! This is when I put up two more signs.

I don't feel like it's crazy to want the door to be locked, especially when we live in a city, in a dorm with young women. I know they'll be annoyed, but like, Am I the a*****e??

I don't want to be a bad roommate, I just don't feel safe over the door being unlocked, I don't know :((