Roommates Boyfriend Over Every Night Interferes With My Study and Sleep - AITA?

Freshman year in a sorority is supposed to feel like a fresh start, not a nightly soundscape of Netflix laughter. But one OP is stuck sharing a room with a roommate who went from quiet and tidy to having her boyfriend show up constantly.

At first it was “every week,” then it turned into “every single night.” He rolls in around 9 PM, they watch TikTok and whatever else, they laugh like the walls are soundproof, and the whole thing drags until 2 AM, sometimes 3 AM. OP has classes at 7 AM, so the lack of sleep and study time is starting to mess with everything.

After two polite asks to limit it to weekends, the roommate agreed, then immediately went right back to nightly visits, and now OP is being called jealous and controlling, with Snapchat drama on top.

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I’m doing my freshman year in a sorority with a random roommate. We got randomly assigned together and it seemed fine at first- she was quiet and clean.

Then she started having her boyfriend over every week, then every single night. Almost every single night he rolls in at nine, they watch Netflix or TikTok, laugh at stupid s**t, I literally hear everything.

Everything. They stay till 3 AM or literally just stay the night.

I have classes at 7 AM so I need to study and sleep. I asked her twice super nice if we could switch that to weekends only.

She said yeah, then did nothing. It has turned back into an every day situation and he was even here last night till 2 AM, watching beast games.

I eventually lost on her and told her that I can’t keep doing this because it’s my space too. She ended up getting really mad called me jealous and said I’m controlling.

I know that she’s posting about me on Snapchat so I frel like s**t. What do I do?

Am I the a*****e?

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The peace lasted about as long as it took the boyfriend to go from weekly visits to rolling in at 9 PM every night.

OP asked twice to switch it to weekends only, and the roommate said yes, then totally ignored it and kept the 2 AM Beast Games marathon going.

When OP finally snapped and said it has to stop, the roommate flipped the script, calling OP jealous and accusing her of being controlling.

To make it worse, OP suspects the roommate is posting about her on Snapchat, so now it is not just the noise, it is the embarrassment too.

What are your thoughts on this situation? Share your perspective in the comments below.

Nobody wants to fail freshman year because their roommate’s boyfriend treats the room like a late-night hangout.

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