Roommates Puppy Training Disagreement: Would I Be Wrong to Back Out?

A 28-year-old man is living with his roommate, a 27-year-old woman, and everything was fine until she brought home a puppy. They even had a plan, an actual talk about training and splitting care like adults.

Then the puppy arrived, and the agreement basically evaporated. His roommate lets the dog run wild, skips any schedule, and keeps rewarding it with treats, all while brushing off his repeated attempts to talk about consistency. So now he’s coming home to chaos after work, watching their “shared responsibilities” turn into his problem.

And that’s why he’s considering stepping out of puppy duties entirely, even though he’s worried it could blow up their living situation.

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So I'm (28M) living with my roommate (27F) who recently decided to get a new puppy. Before getting the puppy, we had a discussion about training and taking care of the puppy together.

We both agreed that we would share responsibilities equally.

Fast forward to when the puppy arrived. My roommate completely disregarded our agreement.

She lets the puppy do whatever it wants, doesn't stick to a schedule, and spoils it with treats all the time. As a result, the puppy is becoming unruly and disobedient.

I've tried talking to her multiple times about the importance of consistency in training, but she brushes it off, saying she knows what she's doing. I feel frustrated and overwhelmed by the puppy's behavior, especially since I come home to chaos after work.

Now, I'm considering refusing to take care of the puppy altogether since my roommate isn't holding up her end of our agreement. I don't want to contribute to the inconsistent and ineffective training methods she's using.

However, I'm worried this might strain our relationship and the puppy's well-being. So WIBTA for refusing to take care of my roommate's new puppy I didn't agree to train together?

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This also echoes the partner who accidentally scared their new puppy, and the argument over who should train afterward.

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That roommate-puppy honeymoon ends fast when OP realizes the “equal responsibilities” plan is not being followed at all.</p>

Every time OP brings up consistency, she waves it off with a confident, “I know what I’m doing,” while the puppy gets more unruly.</p>

The real kicker is that OP isn’t just hearing about chaos, he’s walking into it after work because the training never sticks.</p>

Now OP is weighing whether refusing to help is the only way to stop getting stuck in the middle of her inconsistent routine.</p>

We're curious to hear your perspective. Share your thoughts in the comments.

If she wants a chaos puppy, she can handle the chaos.

Before you bail on the training plan, read how one roommate dealt with severe pet allergies and a refused “no puppy” decision in Roommates Severe Allergies vs. New Puppy.