Wife Is Upset When Her Still-Sedated Husband Asks For His Mom After Recovering From Surgery

A hospital waiting room can turn tense fast, especially when sedation, family feelings, and bad timing all collide. In this Reddit story, a woman stayed with her husband and his mother while he went in for surgery, only to feel sidelined when he woke up asking for his mom instead of her.

The situation got messier because the two women had already been on shaky terms, and the nurse said only one person could go back while he was still coming out of anesthesia. When the mother-in-law went in first, OP took it personally, even though her husband was still groggy and not fully aware of what was happening.

Now the comments are piling up, and most readers are not on her side. Read on.

The nurse was heavily suggesting that OP shouldn't get worked up over this since her husband had not fully regained control of his senses.

Still, she felt annoyed and wanted to go home. Ten minutes later, OP was out of the hospital and headed straight home.

Sometime later, her mother-in-law called her, saying she had stepped out of the room early to give OP a chance to see her husband, but she was nowhere to be found. The mother-in-law said this was not okay and that OP was acting too extremely for no apparent reason.

OP petulantly replied that she was irritated because he acted like she wasn't there. Her husband's mother said she was being unfair to him and that she was just punishing him in her place due to their recent disagreements.

The unreasonable wife ended the call after hearing that because she felt like she was being blamed for being unacknowledged and ignored—her words, not ours. Later that day, OP's father-in-law messaged her, saying she was being hostile over nothing and advised OP to focus on her husband's health instead of acting petty.

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OP doesn't think she was petty for how she behaved. Do you agree with her? Read her original post below:

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The nurse told her this, but OP chose to stay salty.

Cayke_Cooky

Also, why was it so wrong for a son to look for his mom when he physically went through something traumatic?

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Soon enough, perhaps to show OP how messed up one can be after sedatives, people started to share their own stories.

IshkabibblesMom

A Redditor admitted that when her husband failed to recognize her after a seizure, she cried a lot but knew she shouldn't take it personally.

mynameismilton

Her father-in-law was right; OP was just being hostile and petty for no good reason.

bonbam

This is also like the graduation blowup where the OP excluded her father after he prioritized work.

Her husband wasn't fully coherent and just wanted someone to comfort him; his instincts kicked in, and he looked for his mom. If she truly cared, OP would have stayed.

bkzfinest1

Anesthesia has a strong effect hours after surgery, causing some people to search for their pets.

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Some even look for their childhood furry pals.

commandantskip

You shouldn't really take what they say seriously...

username_um_crickets

... unless they see things we don't see...

anyanka_eg

... like human-sized Nazi hamsters?

shewolfspirit23

Some are just sweet, like this guy who didn't recognize his wife at first and reacted as if it was the first time he was seeing her.

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It is possible that OP hasn't experienced the aftereffects of anesthesia firsthand.

roguebiologist

OP sounds like a delight!

mdthomas

We join the growing clamor for OP to grow up.

mdthomas

She doesn't even want to acknowledge she did anything petty. WOW.

catcat712

The story doesn't read like a wife concerned for her husband's health because OP just made it about her.

DryLengthiness5574

The way she told the story didn't really make her look good, and it's not surprising that she was the a**hole here.

PloofElune

Yet another nurse tried to enlighten OP...

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... she really should take a long, hard look at the way she behaved.

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OP replied to some comments, but they were all downvoted to hell because she showed no enlightenment or any sense of remorse about the way she behaved. We do wonder how her husband reacted after learning about all of this from his mom.

We are certain if OP were to tell the story to her husband, she would somehow cast herself as the victim and make him apologize for the anesthesia fog he was under. OP should get her eyes checked because she is definitely not seeing things clearly.

For another nasty relationship standoff, see what happened after a friend neglected a pet.