Should I Confess My Feelings to My Crush After Setting Him Up on a Date with My Friend?

One Reddit user tried to play matchmaker for two people she cared about, and it blew up in her face fast.

The 29-year-old woman set her friend Alex up with her longtime crush, Sam, then watched the date turn into something more. Once she realized her feelings were still there, she told Sam how she felt, and that is where the trouble really started. Now Alex feels betrayed, Sam is stuck in the middle, and the whole thing has turned into a messy friendship triangle.

Reddit has plenty to say about this one, and the reactions are not exactly gentle. Was she honest, or did she cross a line she should have left alone?

So I'm (29F) in a bit of a situation with my friend, Alex (30M), and my crush, Sam (28M). Alex has been single for a while, and I thought it would be a great idea to set him up on a blind date with Sam, who I've had feelings for for quite some time.

The date went really well, and they hit it off. However, as they started dating, I realized I couldn't just sit back and watch them together.

I decided to confess my feelings to Sam, hoping he felt the same way. Now, Alex is furious with me for interfering in his relationship and betraying his trust.

Sam is confused and torn between us. I never intended for things to get this messy, but I can't help how I feel.

So AITA?

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That is where things started to get awkward.

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Another commenter is not holding back.

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And the replies keep coming.

It’s like the AITA mess where a love triangle forms between my crush, my friend, and my own feelings, in this case about setting up your crush with your friend and catching feelings.

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What's your opinion on this situation? Join the conversation!

This situation highlights the importance of open communication and self-awareness in managing romantic feelings within a friendship.

This situation highlights the complexity of human emotions, especially when love and friendship intersect. The original poster's decision to confess her feelings reflects a common psychological struggle: the desire for authenticity clashing with the fear of damaging relationships. This often leads to messy outcomes, as seen here, where unaddressed feelings can create turmoil not just for oneself but for those involved. Encouraging open communication and self-reflection can help navigate these tricky emotional waters more effectively.

Now everyone is waiting to see who she hurt most.

Wondering if you were wrong for setting up Alex with Sam, then confessing? Read the AITA take in this unrequited-love confession where the love triangle explodes.