Should I Have Lent My SIL My Designer Bag for Her Wedding?

It started with a simple loan request, and somehow it turned into a full-blown family money panic. OP’s sister in law asked to borrow an $800 YSL clutch for her wedding, because it “matches her dress,” and OP is already stressed about the bag getting damaged or not coming back the same.

What makes it messier is the whole history behind the ask. OP says her SIL has designer bags of her own, so she should understand the value, plus SIL has been helping OP resell Labubu collections to her coworkers and even helped OP make a small profit. So OP is stuck between worrying about the clutch and feeling guilty that saying no might make her the bad guy.

Here’s the part that really stings, OP has to decide if refusing a bag loan is selfish, or just protecting something expensive.

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Sister in law asked if she could borrow my $800 YSL clutch for a wedding because it matches her dress. I feel pretty anxious because I’m afraid it’ll be damaged, but she also has designer bags of her own so I think she knows the value of it enough to take care of it.

But if I had said no, would IBTA? She has been helping me resale my Labubu collection to her coworkers and helping my make a small profit from it and I thought IWBTA if I didn’t let her borrow my bag.

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Kind of like the AITA poster who donated their inheritance to charity and sparked family outrage.

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OP is already anxious about the YSL clutch getting scuffed, even though her SIL owns other designer bags and should know better than to treat it casually.

The guilt hits harder because SIL has helped OP resell Labubus to her coworkers, turning the whole “can I borrow this?” question into a weird trade-off.

OP’s real fear is that if she says no, she’ll be labeled the asshole for not returning the same energy, even though the bag is worth $800.

And now the comments are basically split between people who think OP should trust SIL with the clutch, and people who think “matching the dress” is not a good enough reason to risk it.

How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comments.

This isn’t just about a clutch, it’s about whether OP’s “thanks for helping me sell” obligation extends to risking her $800 bag.

Wait, it gets messier, like the dad’s will fight in this inheritance showdown with the aunts.