Should I Keep Funding My Moms Spending Habits?

Some people don’t recognize a favor, they just treat it like a subscription. This one started with a 20-year-old plumber who was doing pretty well, and decided to help his mom get caught up on rent.

He sent her $5,100 to cover 3 months of back rent and other debts, with the whole promise that it would finally fix the money situation. Instead, he later found out she didn’t pay the rent at all, and used the money for a new stove, washer and dryer, and a fridge, even though other family members were already using those appliances.

Now she keeps calling him for rent money, and his family is roasting him for refusing to throw another $5,100 into the same cycle.

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Ok so I’m 20 yrs old and I’m a plumber. I’m making pretty good money recently and I been spending almost all my money back into my company to further my business.

I don’t really spend money on anything other than rent, car payment, cell phone, and internet. So my mother lives in an apartment and is behind 3 months rent.

I gave her $5100 to help her pay off her rent and other debts throughout the year. But recently I found out that she didn’t pay her rent debt or any other debt.

She bought a new stove, washer and dryer and fridge with the money. There was nothing wrong with them cause my other family members are currently using them.

Now she constantly calls me saying she needs money to pay her rent even though she spent the money I gave her. This has always been a problem with her once she gets money she spends it on luxuries not necessities.

Anyways my family whom I rarely talk to talk s**t on me for not giving her money to pay her debts.

I have the money but I don’t want her to repeat the cycle I’ve been seeing her get in. Like I want to help her but to throw away another $5100.

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This gets messy in the same way a cousin’s wedding invite drama did when the partner was excluded.

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He’s not even out here buying random stuff, he’s basically reinvesting his money into his plumbing business while his mom circles back for more rent cash.</p>

The moment he realizes the $5,100 went to appliances instead of the 3-month rent hole is when the whole “helping” story stops making sense.</p>

Then the constant calls start, the ones where his mom needs money again even though she already had it and used it on luxuries.</p>

And of course the family he rarely talks to jumps in to talk trash, making his decision feel like a public fight instead of a private boundary.</p>

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section.

He’s wondering if helping his mom is really charity, or just financing her next appliance haul.

For another “helped someone, got burned” family standoff, read what neighbors’ kids did after asking to adopt the stray puppy.