Should I Refuse to Give My Best Friend Pregnancy Advice Against My Beliefs?
"Struggling with a friend seeking pregnancy advice on unconventional methods, OP questions if honesty or support should take precedence. WIBTA for holding back? 🤔"
A 27-year-old woman is stuck in the middle of one of those friendships that feels like family, except the topic is pregnancy, and she doesn’t agree with everything her best friend wants to try.
Her best friend, Sarah, has been trying to get pregnant for a year, and the support requests keep coming. At first it was fertility treatments, diet changes, and emotional reassurance. Lately, Sarah is leaning into holistic therapies and alternative medicine, and now she’s asking for input on a new treatment the OP thinks is risky and potentially harmful.
The problem is, every time she tries to be honest, Sarah gets defensive and pushes her to endorse it anyway.
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So I'm a 27-year-old woman and my best friend, who we'll call Sarah, is 30 years old. Sarah has been trying to get pregnant for the past year, and it's been a challenging journey for her.
She often asks me for advice on fertility treatments, diet changes, and general emotional support. Recently, Sarah started considering more unconventional methods like holistic therapies and alternative medicine.
While I fully support her choices, I personally don't believe in some of these approaches. During our last conversation, she asked for my opinion on a new treatment she's considering that I feel is risky and potentially harmful.
I hesitated to encourage her and instead tried to gently express my concerns. However, Sarah became defensive and insisted she knows what's best for her body.
Now, she keeps pushing me to endorse her decisions, even though I disagree with them. I don't want to jeopardize our friendship by giving advice I don't believe in, but I also don't want Sarah to feel unsupported.
So, would I be the a*****e for refusing to give her advice that goes against my beliefs? I just want what's best for her, but I fear being honest may strain our relationship.
What should I do? WIBTA?
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It’s like the AITA case where someone still gave pregnancy advice to a friend, even after they protested.
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The second Sarah asked for a green light on that new treatment, the OP’s gentle “I’m not sure” turned into a full-on argument.
After a year of trying, Sarah isn’t just asking questions anymore, she’s demanding support that matches her choices exactly.
When the OP stayed quiet or hesitated, Sarah interpreted it as rejection instead of concern, and the friendship tension spiked fast.
Now the OP is stuck between refusing to back something she believes could hurt Sarah and risking the friendship by speaking up.
How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comments.
She’s not trying to ruin Sarah’s hopes, but she might be forced to choose honesty over “yes” every time she opens her mouth.
Wondering if you’d be the bad friend for pushing Sarah’s pregnancy habits anyway? Read this dilemma about unsolicited pregnancy advice.
