Daughter Refused To Pay Her Sick Father's Medical Bills And Wonders If That Makes Her A Jerk

Sickness and the fear of death usually bring people together for one last time; they put everything behind them and focus on possibly spending their very last moments with their loved ones. As Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist, notes, "The threat of loss can often illuminate the depth of our connections, revealing what we truly value." However, this is not always the case. Some people remain bitter enemies until the very end, despite everything. According to Dr. Pat Love, a relationship therapist, "Unresolved issues can create a barrier that prevents healing, even in the face of life's most significant challenges." For whatever reason, some fathers choose to leave their families and forget about them entirely, as if they never existed. Each circumstance is different, and the reasons why fathers leave are always varied. A Reddit user who goes by the username u/HumanWaste000 made a post on r/AmItheA**hole where she explained how she refused to pay for her father's medical bills because he walked out on them more than 18 years ago. The post received a lot of different reactions from Reddit users; scroll down and check it out!

Here's the original Reddit post by u/HumanWaste000:

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OP had a very special relationship with her father before the divorce.

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Her mom took on all the responsibilities on her own and raised them both.

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Despite everything, OP's mom still wanted her to help a little.

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Here's how Reddit users reacted to u/HumanWaste000's post:

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He should be giving them money, not the other way around.

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He never attempted to contact them before that.

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This user was in the exact same situation as OP:

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The kids grow up thinking something is wrong with them.

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He doesn't deserve OP's help.

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He only provided half her DNA and nothing else.

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The father made a conscious decision to abandon his children.

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He stopped being her dad when he abandoned them.

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"He had plenty of time to reach out and build a relationship before financial hardship."

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He does not deserve to be in OP's life.

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It's totally unacceptable.

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The father only sees OP as a wire transfer, not family.

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She could do it out of the kindness of her heart, but not because she's obligated to do so.

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He made it clear who and what was important to him.

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That man is not her father.

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It's one last opportunity to rip her off before he dies.

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OP has every right to refuse to pay her father's bills. His new family obviously does not care about them as people since they only decided to contact them after the dad was going through tough times.

The dad never attempted to contact them before and disappeared from their lives for years; he is barely even their father anymore. No a-holes here today.

The dad will have to deal with whatever tough times he is going through on his own because he will not be getting help from OP anytime soon.