Teenage Redditor Took Her Sister's Party Fund After She Stole Her iPad And Lost It
"If she did sell it to a friend, tell her to use that money to fund her sweet sixteen party if it means that much to her."
We let go of a lot of things, especially mistakes, when the ones who make them are family members. Siblings, especially, have a place on the list of people to be exempted.
It's mostly because they are trusted enough that if they screw up, it wouldn't be because they intend to hurt you. There's also the reason that it would be frustrating to have hostile tension against people that you're supposed to be with for all of your life.
But sometimes, it can't be helped that they go over the limit of innocent mistakes to actual illegal actions. The worst thing is that those mistakes affect you greatly.
Borrowing things is sort of inevitable for siblings. Even if you don't live in the same house, somehow you'll have some of their stuff on loan indefinitely.
That would usually be okay since you know where to find it and you can ask for it back anytime. But what if they don't borrow it, they steal it, and sometimes lose it?
A Redditor faced this dilemma when her younger sister, who has a track record of stealing from her, took her iPad from her safe and lost it on the train. The sister showed no remorse until OP decided to use her sister's money for her sixteenth birthday party to replace the lost iPad.
Here's how OP's problem developed
AdVisible887OP's sister has a lengthy track record of taking things from OP's space, even items belonging to her boyfriend. And while their dad tries to discipline her, their mom just makes excuses.
AdVisible887OP's boyfriend, Cal, gave her an iPad for her birthday, and she uses it frequently.
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The sentimental value of the iPad increased with the custom case that OP's brother made, so OP makes sure to lock it in the safe when she's out.
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When OP returned from her brother's place, the safe no longer held the iPad, only the case. Either her boyfriend or her dad must have seen it.
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Nonchalantly, OP's mom disclosed that the younger sister lost it on the train and suggested that OP just let it go.
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The fight started, and their dad intervened, telling the little sister to pay OP back. When she said that she had no money, OP decided to take the money for her party as compensation.
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Although their mom disagreed, their dad wanted OP to do what she wanted with the money, which her brother transferred to her boyfriend's account.
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OP's brother and boyfriend came by to help settle the situation.
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It was discovered that the sister had been stealing not only from OP but also from their older brother.
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The sister started telling OP what she really did, but OP doesn't believe all of it anymore.
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OP's sister should stop and take accountability for her actions, or...
thr0wawayyyy12
she might face consequences beyond just a scolding.
thr0wawayyyy12
She's crying about it, which means she really does care, but she didn't think things through when she stole the iPad.
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A few Redditors offered suggestions on how to secure her safe better.
tj78963
She could give a copy of the key to someone trustworthy, namely her dad and her boyfriend.
Maigraith
OP should not only secure the items in the safe but also the safe itself.
MisterPX11
It's an expensive mistake to just let go.
MisterPX11
If the dad and the boyfriend need tips to better fix the locks, then they could watch this professional.
ArchyDWolf
Some suggest doing the right thing and calling the police since it is, in fact, theft.
qingskies
If OP's sister doesn't stop stealing, she might face a few court cases of her own as well.
citrushibiscus
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citrushibiscus
OP mentioned that it was her first time snapping in this situation.
ssnowangelz
They encouraged her to have done that long ago.
OutcomeOld2685
OP is wary of the suggestion since it might create more tension in the family.
AdVisible887
This Redditor agrees with OP.
ApatheticEight
They pointed out, though, that she already lives in a toxic environment.
vyvanseandvodka
Whatever way OP chooses, it's nice that she has the support of her dad, her boyfriend, and her brother.
3nimsaj
Because it seems like her mother is a lost cause when it comes to listening to her.
SophieCdog
They did try looking for the iPad.
JoKing917
They did, but it turns out it's not worth going back for.
AdVisible887
It's always painful not to be on good terms with your siblings when you're supposed to have each other's backs. If OP's sister gets out of this situation without regret, she might always feel like she can get her way.
This will reduce the accountability she has and will further affect her adult life. Do you think OP should return the money or buy herself a new iPad?
