Man Asked If He Was Wrong For Not Giving His 'Spoiled' Nephew One Of His Son's Toy
It's not always the case that parents should give in to their child's tantrums.
A family Thanksgiving turned awkward fast when one uncle refused to hand over his son's toy truck to a nephew who wanted it. What started as a simple moment with a child and a toy quickly turned into a bigger argument about parenting, boundaries, and who was really out of line.
The nephew reportedly threw a long tantrum after being told no, and his parents did not take it well. Instead of backing up the uncle, his brother blamed him for the emotional meltdown and made the whole situation personal.
Now the internet is weighing in on whether he was wrong to stand his ground, and the comments are not holding back.
Here's the first part of the story.
His nephew played non-stop with his 2-year-old son's toy truck and wanted to keep it for himself. His brother immediately said that he would replace it.
This guy, however, refused to give the toy to his nephew. Aside from being way too old for that kind of toy, he did not want to tolerate his behavior.
via: aita_toy_tantrumThis guy refused to be an enabler of his nephew's behavior.
As the child did not get what he wanted, he started throwing a tantrum that caused the family to leave. The guy then received a message from his brother blaming him for what happened.
His brother told him that for the entire three-hour trip on their way home, his nephew screamed his head off. He then passed out from exhaustion.
Guess what happened? His brother also accused him of triggering a tantrum and 'backseat parenting'.
via: aita_toy_tantrum
Here are some of the comments posted by the community.
Here are some of the comments posted by the community.
via: Rat_Kin
NTA. How can you teach your kids good behavior when you're indirectly reinforcing them for their bad behavior?
via: xxxdggxxx
NTA. The parents are awful!
via: teresajs
NTA. The three-hour tantrum is his brother's fault.
via: asianingermany
NTA. Both brother and nephew feel entitled.
via: BrandalieK
NTA. Boundaries should be set.
via: EngineerGold5676
Also similar to the AITA where someone refused to pet-sit their sisters’ misbehaving dog.
NTA for not being an enabler.
via: grianmharduit
NTA. But the true a**h*les are the child's parents.
via: GreekAmericanDom
The child's parents are wrong for blaming the guy for their child's misbehavior.
via: ninaa1
For some, he was the a**h*le if the child has autism, as a three-hour tantrum is no longer normal.
via: MizStazya
NTA. "No is a complete sentence."
via: MikkiLake
NTA. LOL, the guy was told to do the same thing when he would visit his brother's house.
via: NUT-me-SHELL
NTA. He was 100% right when he did that.
via: The_Incredible_Rook
NTA. It was easier to blame the uncle than to admit they are terrible parents.
via: Top-Bit85
This one here is asking if the child has been tested for neurodiversity.
via: krankykitty
Nobody's the a**h*le, as it looks like the child has some kind of autism.
via: Hellagranny
NTA. The parents have raised their child to be a brat.
via: _SassyWalabi_
NTA, but notice the three-hour tantrum, which possibly means it could be associated with some condition.
via: Amythist35
The kid must be autistic with hyper-attachment or hyper-focus issues.
via: MushroomPrincess63
After consolidating the responses, most people praised the guy for not being an enabler of bad behavior. There were also those who thought that he was the a**h*le because it was Thanksgiving anyway.
Families gather to be happy, catch up with life, and exchange gifts with one another. But this guy cut the happiness of one kid who played with the toy truck for hours.
In case they have no idea yet, the parents and even this guy are warned of the possibility that the child might be autistic. It's a blessing in disguise so that intervention can be provided.
For more family drama, see why this brother’s partner was kicked out after insulting cooking.
