Man Asked If He Was Wrong For Not Giving His 'Spoiled' Nephew One Of His Son's Toy
It's not always the case that parents should give in to their child's tantrums.
Children love to get everyone's attention, and very often, they throw tantrums to get what they want. But as parents, is there a need to give in to these tantrums?
Parents find it frustrating to deal with temper tantrums. One child wants a toy, and if he does not get what he wants, he whines and cries with all his might until he does. Some parents find themselves terrified of their child's behavior, and their immediate resolution is to give them whatever they want.
However, this should serve as a caveat for parents because they may end up rewarding the wrong behavior instead of correcting it. By giving in to your child's tantrums, he will think that what he did was right and is more likely to do it again whenever he needs to get something.
On the other hand, ignoring such behavior sends your child the message that it's not easy to get what he wants. This would make it less likely for your child to show the same behavior again.
For this man's nephew, throwing a tantrum is normal, and his parents easily give in to his desires. When the child's family went to his home for Thanksgiving, he witnessed his nephew's misbehavior firsthand.
Sadly, his brother confronted him for not giving one of his son's toys to his nephew and blamed him for the emotional outburst. Find out how the community reacted when he asked if he was an a**h*le or not for not tolerating his nephew's behavior.
Here's the first part of the story.
His nephew played non-stop with his 2-year-old son's toy truck and wanted to keep it for himself. His brother immediately said that he would replace it.
This guy, however, refused to give the toy to his nephew. Aside from being way too old for that kind of toy, he did not want to tolerate his behavior.
via: aita_toy_tantrumThis guy refused to be an enabler of his nephew's behavior.
As the child did not get what he wanted, he started throwing a tantrum that caused the family to leave. The guy then received a message from his brother blaming him for what happened.
His brother told him that for the entire three-hour trip on their way home, his nephew screamed his head off. He then passed out from exhaustion.
Guess what happened? His brother also accused him of triggering a tantrum and 'backseat parenting'.
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Here are some of the comments posted by the community.
via: Rat_Kin
NTA. How can you teach your kids good behavior when you're indirectly reinforcing them for their bad behavior?
via: xxxdggxxx
NTA. The parents are awful!
via: teresajs
NTA. The three-hour tantrum is his brother's fault.
via: asianingermany
NTA. Both brother and nephew feel entitled.
via: BrandalieK
NTA. Boundaries should be set.
via: EngineerGold5676
NTA for not being an enabler.
via: grianmharduit
NTA. But the true a**h*les are the child's parents.
via: GreekAmericanDom
The child's parents are wrong for blaming the guy for their child's misbehavior.
via: ninaa1
For some, he was the a**h*le if the child has autism, as a three-hour tantrum is no longer normal.
via: MizStazya
NTA. "No is a complete sentence."
via: MikkiLake
NTA. LOL, the guy was told to do the same thing when he would visit his brother's house.
via: NUT-me-SHELL
NTA. He was 100% right when he did that.
via: The_Incredible_Rook
NTA. It was easier to blame the uncle than to admit they are terrible parents.
via: Top-Bit85
This one here is asking if the child has been tested for neurodiversity.
via: krankykitty
Nobody's the a**h*le, as it looks like the child has some kind of autism.
via: Hellagranny
NTA. The parents have raised their child to be a brat.
via: _SassyWalabi_
NTA, but notice the three-hour tantrum, which possibly means it could be associated with some condition.
via: Amythist35
The kid must be autistic with hyper-attachment or hyper-focus issues.
via: MushroomPrincess63
YTA. It was Thanksgiving, and the kid fell in love with the truck.
via: SassySavcy
After consolidating the responses, most people praised the guy for not being an enabler of bad behavior. There were also those who thought that he was the a**h*le because it was Thanksgiving anyway.
Families gather to be happy, catch up with life, and exchange gifts with one another. But this guy cut the happiness of one kid who played with the toy truck for hours.
In case they have no idea yet, the parents and even this guy are warned of the possibility that the child might be autistic. It's a blessing in disguise so that psychological, as well as medical, intervention can be provided.
