Struggling with Partners Vegan Restaurant Demands: AITA for Wanting Variety in Dining?

A 28-year-old woman just tried to book a cute Italian dinner, and her vegan partner basically hit the brakes. In a relationship where food is supposed to be fun, this turned into a full-on values showdown over where they’re allowed to eat.

OP says her partner (30M) has been vegan for a while, and at first she was totally on board, even when he pushed vegan restaurants. But recently he’s been insisting they only eat at vegan places, calling it “convenience” and “supporting his lifestyle,” even when OP misses non-vegan spots and the variety that comes with them.

Then she suggested Italian last week, he refused, and when she mentioned going with friends, he called her unsupportive. Here’s the full story.

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I (28F) have been with my partner (30M) for a year now, and things have generally been great. He's vegan, which is totally cool with me, and I always respect his dietary choices.

For background, I'm a foodie and love trying different cuisines. Quick context: He's very passionate about veganism and often suggests dining at vegan restaurants, which I've been open to for the most part.

Lately, he's been insisting we only eat at vegan places, claiming it's for convenience and to support his lifestyle. But honestly, I miss going to my favorite non-vegan spots.

Last week, I suggested trying this amazing new Italian place, and he flat out refused. Stating that he couldn't support such places goes against his beliefs.

I felt disappointed, as I miss enjoying a variety of foods. He got upset when I said I might go there with friends instead, accusing me of not being supportive.

I understand his perspective, but I feel like my own preferences are being sidelined. I'm torn between respecting his choices and missing the culinary experiences I used to love.

So AITA?

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It’s kind of like the girlfriend argument over using gifted fun money to pay off debt and expenses.

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OP was fine with vegan places at first, but the “only vegan restaurants” rule started feeling less like a preference and more like a demand.

The Italian restaurant request last week is where everything snapped, because he wouldn’t even consider it.

When OP mentioned possibly going with friends, her partner flipped the script and accused her of not supporting his beliefs.

Now OP is stuck trying to balance respect for his veganism with the fact that her foodie life keeps getting sidelined.

What would you do in this situation? Share your opinion in the comments.

If he wants a life where nothing non-vegan touches the menu, OP may need to ask whether that relationship is compatible with her.

Want to talk about financial pressure, read the AITA about gambling for fun while the poster is deep in debt.