Wife Blows Up After Finding Out Her Romantic Husband Had No Real Valentine Plan

It's normal for a relationship to lose its romance and excitement after years of dating or marriage, but a little work can go a long way towards rekindling the romance you once had. Romance is just one of many facets of a relationship that couples need to concentrate on in order to succeed in the long run.

The essential element that keeps a relationship vibrant, intriguing, and meaningful is romance. Therefore, it's critical that the significance of romance in your relationship not be diminished by routine daily obligations.

Dates can be an opportunity to catch up on your everyday activities. Dressing up and heading out to a romantic restaurant with your significant other might evoke sensations of youth and vitality or recollections of the start of your relationship.

The original poster of today's story did more than just dates. OP is the romantic in his 15 year old marriage.

For their ten year anniversary, OP surprised his wife by flying her brides maids back to their town and held a vow renewal in the same place they got married. He even got the same photographer, officiant, flowers etc.

It's always been important to the OP to show his kids how a partner deserves to be treated. He wanted them to never expect or settle for less than their worth.

During a particular Valentine period, OP decided not to plan anything but his wife's reaction made him rethink things.

The OP writes...

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The OP even surprised his wife with a Christmas trip to visit her best friend in England

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"Mom always said we don't need to be told when and how to love our partner"

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I did not do anything grandiose for Valentine's Day when I've always gone all out. As such my wife is mad even though she's never done anything for any of our special dates

The OP answered a lot of comments and we've gathered some of the most upvoted ones below

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The OP's doing more than enough

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Being on point

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It's coming to fruition

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The OP left this edit to clear up some things...

My wife is incredibly attentive and giving. Just not overtly romantic and is terrible at gift giving. Doesn't mean she doesn't try. She's also not "spoiled" sorry if I gave that impression, she's always super grateful and I love thinking about how to make her happy and doing little things for her. That's not spoiling her, it's consideration to and for her happiness.Our 14 year old suggested a quiet night when I was struggling for ideas as the last 3 months have been insanely stressful with work, renos etc and my wife's best friend seconded it so I'm soliciting marital advice from our 14 year old.This is also the first time she's asked if I'd made plans and told her no. First time in 17 years so it probably came across as shocking to her and I'm worried I've possibly given her the wrong impression about not caring or that hers is possibly just an expectation response.

The comments continues...

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This Redditor would have stopped years ago

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She should plan one for a change

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Most people would consider that a plan

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It is safe to think of romance as the glue that holds a couple together. In fact, it is the spark that sustains their desire and connection.

Couples frequently struggle to find time for romance due to jobs, hectic schedules, and kids. But for the OP, it was a different case, and his wife ought to have understood him.

In all, OP was declared not the AH, and that's a wrap.