Man Suspects His GF Is Using Her Fibromyalgia As An Excuse To Get Out Of Doing Things She Dislikes
She is accused of using it as an excuse to avoid doing chores, but many disabled people are accused of exaggerating their reality when others simply don't understand what it's really like. The evidence in this case is quite damning, though.
Fibromyalgia is a medical condition characterized by widespread musculoskeletal pain, sleep disturbances, fatigue, and cognitive issues. Dr. Daniel Kahneman, a renowned behavioral economist, explains, "Chronic pain can significantly alter one’s perception of reality, leading to misunderstandings in relationships." Symptoms can be triggered by various factors, including physical trauma, infection, or psychological stress, but may also develop gradually without a clear cause. Women are disproportionately affected, with the condition being twice as common in females than in males. Dr. Esther Perel, a leading couples therapist, notes, "Understanding the emotional impact of chronic illness is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships." Individuals with fibromyalgia may also experience additional issues such as tension headaches and anxiety, making it a complex condition that can be difficult to diagnose. A Reddit user who goes by the username u/Dazzling_Layer3212 made a post on r/AmITheA**hole asking if he's wrong for noticing that his girlfriend's fibromyalgia seems to flare up at convenient times, sparking a variety of responses from the community.
Here's the original Reddit post by u/Dazzling_Layer3212:
RedditOP suspected that his girlfriend uses her fibromyalgia as an excuse to avoid doing things.
RedditOP confronted her about it, and she didn't take it well.
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OP even provided some examples to support his point.
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Here's how Reddit users reacted to u/Dazzling_Layer3212's post:
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Flare-ups apparently last at least an entire day, not just 10 minutes.
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OP's behavior is indeed questionable.
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She seems to be taking advantage of the situation and selectively choosing when she has flare-ups.
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OP remains patient with his girlfriend.
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There is an obvious pattern here.
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The condition is quite painful and draining.
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People still try to live a normal life despite suffering from fibromyalgia.
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Fibromyalgia drains all your energy.
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Fibromyalgia attacks often occur during holidays.
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The evidence is just too overwhelming.
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It sounds like she's taking advantage of her boyfriend's kindness.
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It's clear that OP no longer trusts his girlfriend.
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Flare-ups last much longer than that.
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Reading this post was infuriating for people who actually have fibromyalgia.
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People with fibromyalgia are always in pain.
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It's a little too convenient.
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OP needs to reconsider his entire relationship.
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She has hobosexualed her way into his home.
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Time to reevaluate your situation.
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Some red flags are redder than others, and these look pretty red to me.
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He has every right to address this issue.
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He won't be able to shake that suspicion.
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She needs to find a way to manage her condition.
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They last days, not hours.
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People do whatever they can to cope with the pain.
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It's not a full flare-up.
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OP has every right to suspect his girlfriend's behavior because her claims are questionable and seem to primarily benefit her. He needs to find a solution to this problem unless he is willing to financially support someone who doesn't even help around the house.
Her condition might be legitimate, but her excuses are certainly not. Reddit users who actually suffer from the condition confirmed that flare-ups last much longer than she claims and also suspect that she's taking advantage of OP and lying about some aspects of her condition.
