Woman Asks Estranged Dad To Walk Her Down The Aisle, Now Family Is Threatening To Boycott The Wedding

A Reddit user says her father was mostly absent from her childhood, leaving when she was around seven and leaving her mom to raise four kids on her own. As a result, the entire family grew up resenting him, especially the OP’s mother and youngest sister.

Family life wasn’t exactly warm and fuzzy after that either, according to the OP. She describes her mother as verbally cruel and says years of lying completely destroyed her trust.

When the Redditor turned 18, her dad reached out and asked to meet for coffee. He apologized for leaving and asked for a fresh start, and while she was hesitant, she ultimately decided to forgive him.

Her siblings didn’t feel the same way and chose to cut contact when he reached out to them, which the OP says she fully respects. After hearing his explanation for leaving—and confirming parts of it with her mother—she continued rebuilding the relationship.

Now 28, the Redditor says reconnecting with her father has been one of the best decisions she’s made. He’s been a consistent source of support, especially as her relationship with her mother has continued to deteriorate.

Things came to a head when the OP decided to invite her dad to her wedding and asked him to walk her down the aisle. Her mom and siblings were furious and threatened to boycott the wedding unless he was uninvited.

They insisted her mother should walk her down the aisle instead, but the Redditor refused. When they doubled down, she calmly told them that was their choice—and if they didn’t come, she’d accept it.

The OP's mom and siblings threatened to boycott the wedding unless he was uninvited.

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Here's the original post by Reddit user 'Upset_Car_5609'.

My father was absent for most of my childhood. I am the second oldest and he split when I was around 7 years olds. I have three other siblings (my older brother, my younger brother and my youngest sister).Growing up everyone in the family hated him (that includes me) especially my mother and youngest sister. My mother was not the best parent, she would be very verbally cruel. My trust in her is also gone due to her lying habit. My father reached out to me when I turned 18 to get coffee.  He apologized to me and wanted to fresh start. I was hesitant at the beginning but decided to forgive and move on. He reached out to the other kids when they turned 18 and they wanted nothing to do with him (that’s their choice and right). He did explain why he left my mother and I confirmed it with her. I am now 28 and I don’t regret it at all, he has been a huge help and support to me over the years. My relationship with my mother has been getting worse over the years, especially since she hates my husband to be (she is very religious and he is not).This is my problem, I invited my dad to walk me down my wedding. I want him at my wedding and to be a part of it. My siblings and my mom are pissed. They told me that if I do this they will not come to my wedding. They want him uninvited form the wedding and that my mom should walk me down. I told them no. It resulted in an argument. I told them they need to get over it and I am not inviting him. They said they will not come and  I told them that was fine.

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted.

jahubb062

Your wedding, your rules.

Scouthawkk

Why didn’t he reach out before that?

No_Atmosphere_3702

NTA.

BuzzySwarm

You’re choosing your dad over everyone else.

ResolveResident118

They don’t get a say in what you choose to do for your wedding.

Enuya95

It’ll probably be more peaceful without them.

klindy22

Stick to your guns.

Mysterious_Battle585

It’s your choice.

Objective_Air8976

You’re doing the right thing.

No_Owl_8576

ESH.

Vegetable-Tea-1984

They don’t respect your choices.

Street-Length9871

It’s not their day, it’s yours.

Shakeit126

They’re acting pathetic.

your-mom04605

While her family insists she’s making the wrong call, the OP believes her wedding should reflect her life as it is now—not the resentment of the past. And if some relatives choose not to attend, she’s prepared to walk down the aisle surrounded by the people who support her, drama and all.