Why I Refused to Tip at a Restaurant - AITA?

A 28-year-old man refused to tip at a new restaurant after the service went sideways in the most frustrating way possible. Orders got mixed up, drinks took forever, and he and his friends had to keep waving down the server just to get basic stuff done.

So when the bill finally landed, the table started debating tip amounts like nothing happened. His friends were shocked he wouldn’t chip in, insisting it’s still “customary” to tip no matter what.

Now the group is split, and he’s wondering if he really crossed the line, or if everyone else is just tipping out of habit.

Original Post

So, I (28M) went out with my friends for dinner at a new restaurant in town last night. The service was absolutely terrible - our orders were mixed up, drinks took forever to arrive, and we had to keep flagging down the server for basic things.

Despite all this, when the bill came, my friends were discussing how much to tip. I spoke up and said that I wasn't going to tip because the service was so bad.

My friends were shocked and started arguing with me, saying it's still customary to tip regardless. I stood my ground, saying that good service should be rewarded, but bad service doesn't deserve a tip.

They ended up pooling together and leaving a tip, but I refused. Now they're all mad at me for not contributing.

So, AITA?

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The second the mixed-up orders and endless drink waits were over, OP’s friends immediately switched from annoyed to “we still have to tip,” and that’s where the tension started.

Also, this echoes a housemate fight over splitting a cat’s unexpected surgery costs.

When OP said he wouldn’t contribute to the tip, his friends argued right there at the table, calling out “custom” while he pushed back with “good service earns it.”

Even though his friends pooled together and left a tip anyway, OP still stood firm, and that decision turned a dinner dispute into a full-on group problem.

Now OP’s friends are mad at him for not paying for the bad service they also received, and the whole night feels like it ended on a sour note.

We're curious to hear your perspective. Share your thoughts in the comments.

Nobody wants to be the only one treating a terrible meal like it should come with a reward.

Still think tipping is always mandatory, wait until you read about a boyfriend demanding a cat be declawed after a baby got scratched.