Woman Wants To Know If She's Wrong For Treating Her Husband's Family With Disdain After They Overstay Their Welcome
It was a Christmas surprise they never wanted.
Some in-law problems start small, then turn into a full-blown marriage headache. For one woman, her husband's family has pushed so far past the line that she now treats them with open disdain.
She says the issue comes from repeated overstepping, especially when her husband's relatives stay too long and ignore basic boundaries. With a passive husband, a difficult mother-in-law, and a tense home dynamic, the situation has become exhausting for everyone involved.
Now she's wondering whether her reaction is justified, or if she's gone too far. The family tension is only getting worse.
A woman asks the community if she's wrong for treating her husband's family the way she did.
RedditThe family doesn't like the woman.
RedditThe nerve of this family.
The mother-in-law, along with her entire family, arbitrarily decided that they would spend the holidays with the original poster and her husband. The worst part is that they plan to stay for a month and a half.
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How selfish!
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The family dynamic
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What the monster-in-law does
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The son's disappointment
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An apology without a 'sorry'?
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This is probably the best thing to do with a mother-in-law who refuses to listen.
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The rest of the family should do their share of the work.
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The mother-in-law IS horrible.
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Poor woman.
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This is similar to a man asking if he’s wrong for skipping intrusive in-laws events after setting boundaries.
You can hardly call it a 'cultural thing.'
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The husband can't stand firm when it comes to his family.
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This would be a nice idea, but the whole house would be a mess since the brothers are too lazy to clean up.
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Others believe that the problem stems from the husband not being able to take control of the situation.
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This user also agrees.
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Since the husband can't take control of the situation, the woman has had to suffer.
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Not the best solution, but it's probably worth it for her anxiety attacks.
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A family of leeches, according to this Redditor.
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People are criticizing the husband's inaction.
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The husband is also trying his best but isn't in a state where he can handle the situation.
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This may be the fastest solution...
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...but not the best because of the mother's manipulative nature.
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That's why the original poster doesn't agree to throw her out.
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Inviting themselves in is a very disrespectful act. They should be ashamed.
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As mentioned by the original poster, he's still in the process of addressing this.
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A Christopher Columbus-like family
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The husband has to take charge; the woman is too tired.
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For this Redditor, what the mother-in-law thinks doesn't matter. That's why it's okay to kick her out.
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This Redditor really is in a tough spot.
Dealing with a difficult mother-in-law is among the most common relationship challenges. While some people believe that their in-laws are worth investing time in, others want them completely out of their lives.
She has to count the days until this whole ordeal is over. Let's hope that her husband finds the courage to make the situation at least a little better for his wife.
Before you judge her “disdain” for the month-and-a-half holiday stay, read how someone handled toxic in-laws by skipping gatherings for self-care: toxic in-laws drama and the decision to skip family events.
