Woman Wants To Know If She's Wrong For Treating Her Husband's Family With Disdain After They Overstay Their Welcome
It was a Christmas surprise they never wanted.
Marriage isn't only about marrying your partner; you have to marry the family as well.
While a partner's family can be a blessing for some people, others find them to be a nightmare incarnate. This is especially true when the mother-in-law is toxic, meddlesome, and overbearing.
It doesn't help that the brothers and sisters-in-law are passive. For someone marrying into that kind of family, it can be challenging.
You can choose your friends and decide to cut ties with those you don't share the same values, goals, and interests with. But you can't do that with your partner's family.
We understand how emotionally exhausting it can be to deal with unnecessary drama. If handled negatively, it can cause a rift between a married couple.
It's even common for one partner to choose sides, and this is what people want to avoid the most when it comes to a partner's family.
There will even be times when the best efforts go in vain. You may have communicated everything properly and set boundaries to make the relationship work.
But your mother-in-law just won't listen. So what's the best thing to do in this situation?
A Redditor ultimately decided to shut down and give up on connecting with her mother-in-law. Is she wrong for doing so?
Who did Redditors side with? Let's find out!
A woman asks the community if she's wrong for treating her husband's family the way she did.
RedditThe family doesn't like the woman.
RedditThe nerve of this family.
The mother-in-law, along with her entire family, arbitrarily decided that they would spend the holidays with the original poster and her husband. The worst part is that they plan to stay for a month and a half.
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How selfish!
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The family dynamic
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What the monster-in-law does
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The son's disappointment
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An apology without a 'sorry'?
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This is probably the best thing to do with a mother-in-law who refuses to listen.
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The rest of the family should do their share of the work.
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The mother-in-law IS horrible.
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Poor woman.
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You can hardly call it a 'cultural thing.'
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The husband can't stand firm when it comes to his family.
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This would be a nice idea, but the whole house would be a mess since the brothers are too lazy to clean up.
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Others believe that the problem stems from the husband not being able to take control of the situation.
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This user also agrees.
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Since the husband can't take control of the situation, the woman has had to suffer.
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Not the best solution, but it's probably worth it for her anxiety attacks.
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A family of leeches, according to this Redditor.
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People are criticizing the husband's inaction.
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The husband is also trying his best but isn't in a state where he can handle the situation.
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This may be the fastest solution...
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...but not the best because of the mother's manipulative nature.
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That's why the original poster doesn't agree to throw her out.
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Inviting themselves in is a very disrespectful act. They should be ashamed.
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As mentioned by the original poster, he's still in the process of addressing this.
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A Christopher Columbus-like family
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The husband has to take charge; the woman is too tired.
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For this Redditor, what the mother-in-law thinks doesn't matter. That's why it's okay to kick her out.
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This Redditor really is in a tough spot.
Dealing with a difficult mother-in-law is among the most common relationship challenges. While some people believe that their in-laws are worth investing time in, others completely want them out of their lives.
She has to count the days until this whole ordeal is over. Let's hope that her husband finds the courage to make the situation at least a little better for his wife.
