AITA for Adjusting Mirrors to Deal with Tailgaters?

AITA for adjusting my mirrors to deal with tailgaters and bright headlights, leading to a confrontation with a truck driver who followed me home?

Damjan

Published in Interesting
23 Dec 2025

AITA for Adjusting Mirrors to Deal with Tailgaters?

In the fast-paced world of driving, navigating the roads can be challenging, especially at night. One Reddit user recently found themselves embroiled in a heated confrontation with a stranger over a seemingly simple act: adjusting their mirrors to combat the blinding glare of headlights.

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This situation spiraled from a minor annoyance into a dramatic encounter that left the original poster questioning their actions and whether they were in the wrong. The poster shares their struggle with night driving, particularly how tailgating and overly bright headlights can create dangerous conditions.

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To cope, they adjusted their mirrors to reflect the harsh lights at the offending driver. This led to a tense exchange with a young man in a lifted truck, who responded aggressively by tailgating and flashing his high beams.

After an unsettling encounter, the driver followed the poster home, sparking a confrontation that raised questions about road safety and personal boundaries. As the community weighs in, the discussion opens up about common driving frustrations, the ethics of mirror adjustments, and the potential dangers of aggressive driving behavior.

With a mix of empathy and diverse opinions, this thread invites readers to reflect on their own experiences and the complexities of navigating road rage in everyday life.

Original Post

Im writing this post because of an altercation I had with a complete stranger. I have difficulty driving at night because of all the bright headlights.

I know some cars come stock with them and you can't control that, you can however control how closely you follow other people. If someone is tailgating me or stop so closely behind me at a red light it blinds me through my mirrors.

Ive started to adjust my mirrors so their headlights will be reflected back at them. Now one day I was on my way home from work being outside all day left me cold, wet and tired.

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All of a sudden a guy probably early 20s in his lifted truck starts tailgating flashing his brights and light bar trying to get me to move out of his way. I could have, but my turn was coming up so instead I stayed in my lane and adjusted my mirrors, it must have worked, because he backed off.

Or so I thought he ended up following me home just to yell at me saying how I could have caused him to crash. I told him and tailgating in the rain doesn't prevent that either.

After about 10 minutes I told him he'd better get going before I call the cops and have their lights blind him for trespassing. He peeled out of my driveway cussing me out some more.

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So I gotta ask am I the a*****e?