Am I Wrong for Refusing to Lend My Friend My Apartment Keys After a Night Out?

Some people don’t recognize a favor until it comes with a key. In this Reddit post, a 27-year-old guy tries to do the “nice friend” thing after a night out, but his request for basic safety turns into a full-blown argument with his long-time friend.

He and Alex, 28, have been friends since college, and they’ve got a pattern: if the night runs late, they sometimes crash at each other’s places. But last weekend, Alex asked to stay at OP’s apartment after drinks, and then admitted the real problem, he didn’t have his wallet. So he wanted OP’s keys so he could get in later when he was too drunk to drive home.

OP said no to handing over access to his “safe space,” and now he’s stuck wondering if he went too far.

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I (27M) have been friends with Alex (28M) since college. We often go out together and sometimes crash at each other's places if it gets too late.

Last weekend, we went out for drinks, and afterwards, Alex asked to crash at my apartment. I was tired and just wanted to go home, so I offered to call him a cab.

That's when he dropped a bombshell: he didn't have his wallet and wanted my keys to get in later when he's too drunk to drive home. For background, I'm very cautious about who has access to my place.

I live alone, and it's my safe space. I hesitated and told Alex I didn't feel comfortable giving him my keys.

He got a bit annoyed, saying we're good friends and he wouldn't snoop around or do anything stupid. I insisted on getting him a cab, but he argued that I was being unreasonable since we're close.

In the end, he took the cab and crashed at his sister's place. The next day, I felt guilty for not helping him out, but I also felt my boundaries were important.

So, AITA?

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It also echoes the case of a friend who asked for emergency money, then bought a gaming console instead, leaving the lender furious.

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OP offered Alex a cab after their night of drinks, but the second Alex said he didn’t have his wallet, the whole plan shifted from “safe ride” to “borrow my keys.”

Instead of accepting the cab, Alex pushed back and basically argued that friendship should override OP’s very specific “no one gets access” rule.

When Alex got annoyed and OP held his ground, Alex ended up crashing at his sister’s place anyway, making the disagreement feel even more pointless.

Now OP is stuck replaying the moment he refused, wondering if he should have helped more after Alex’s drunken detour to his sister’s couch.</p>

What are your thoughts on this situation? Share your perspective in the comments below.

Now he’s wondering if saying “no keys” made him the villain, or just the only one acting like his apartment matters.

Before you judge Alex’s key request, read how one friend got caught with a secret agenda on moving day.