Grieving Mother Asks Reddit If She's Wrong For Refusing To Let Her Stepdaughter Wear Her Late Daughter's Wedding Dress

A grieving mother’s wedding dress is at the center of a family conflict, and Reddit has plenty to say about it.

One woman, posting as u/67099107, explained that her late daughter Lauren had been preparing for her own wedding when she died suddenly. Now her stepdaughter, Zoey, wants to wear Lauren’s dress for her own ceremony, and the request has left the mother feeling deeply uneasy.

She said no, Zoey pushed back, and the disagreement quickly turned into a bigger family issue. Read on.

Reddit user, u/67099107, recently shared her story to the AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit.

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The Redditor's daughter, Lauren, sadly passed away unexpectedly at a young age. "It was so sudden," the mother said.

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The mother explained how she had only recently married her husband in a small ceremony while she was still grieving the loss of her daughter.

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"She was doing okay and was getting ready for her wedding that was supposed to happen the same month she passed away," she said.

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The woman still keeps in touch with her late daughter's fiancé.

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Lauren's mother kept her wedding dress as a special memory of her daughter.

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Now, our OP's stepdaughter, Zoey, is preparing to get married.

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That is where the conversation took an uncomfortable turn.

"We were talking about wedding dresses, and she suddenly brought up Lauren's wedding dress," the Redditor said.

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"She then said she'd like to wear it at her wedding."

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The grieving mother was understandably shaken by the request. "I felt uneasy," she recalled.

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Our OP says her stepdaughter "threw a fit" and claimed she was being unfair.

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Zoey's dad sided with his daughter, which only made matters worse.

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Our OP said no to her stepdaughter, but many people made her feel guilty about her decision, so she turned to Reddit to ask if she was wrong.

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Here's how people reacted.

"It is a sacred memory of your daughter."

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A lot of commenters came down firmly on her side.

Wedding heirloom pressure gets messy too, like the cousin who demanded the grandmother’s necklace, after someone chose to skip her wedding.

"100% NTA."

Reddit / greenbastardette

"Stay strong."

Reddit / Daisie2819

"They aren't entitled to anything."

Reddit / Darkskinellie1

"No is a complete sentence."

Reddit / Consistent-Leopard71

"Stick to your guns."

Reddit / voodoodahlia

"Please hide the dress."

Reddit / tahseen_29

"So sorry for your loss."

Reddit / TrashPanda556

One more response kept the focus on the dress itself.

Hide it!

Reddit / hotof404

It's no surprise that pretty much everyone agreed that our OP was not the a**hole here. Asking a grieving mother for permission to wear (and change) her late daughter's wedding dress seems insensitive, to say the least.

What's your take on our OP's situation and how she has handled it? We would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.

Some family keepsakes are simply not up for debate.

Before you judge the stepmom over the late daughter’s wedding dress, check out the AITA fight about splitting Grandma’s antique jewelry with a cousin who never cared.