Feeling Left Out by Friends, Am I Wrong for Making a New Friend?

AITAH for seeking a new friend after feeling excluded by my close friends? Click to find out how a trio friendship dynamic takes an unexpected turn.

Damjan

Published in Interesting
5 Mar 2026

Feeling Left Out by Friends, Am I Wrong for Making a New Friend?

Some friendships don’t just fade, they quietly reorganize themselves without you. One 21-year-old woman watched her two best friends get tighter and tighter, until she felt like the third wheel in her own life.

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Here’s the messy part: the two friends, both around her age, started making plans together without telling her, meeting almost daily, and then comparing notes in their shared WhatsApp group. When she tried to plug the gap by making a new friend, she posted an Instagram story with that new girl, and somehow that single post lit a fuse.

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Now she’s wondering if she’s the asshole for trying to stop feeling invisible.

Original Post

I am a 21-year-old female, and I have two female friends (21-year-old female + 23-year-old female). We have been friends since 2022.

Recently, I felt that they had become so close that I began to feel like an insignificant third party. They organize things together without thinking about me.

They go out together, meet almost daily, without my knowledge, and at the end of the day they talk about everything they done together in our shared Whatsapp group. After feeling lonely for a while, I decided to get to know other people, and that's where I met another girl (female, 21).

After some time, I posted a picture of us on my Instagram story, which, for some reason, made them angry. AITAH because I sought another friend due to loneliness and because of their constant exclusion of me?

Edit: However, they aren't talking to me now. I was an admin with them in the WhatsApp group, but they removed that feature from me, preventing me from speaking or interacting with them in the group.

I can only watch. + I explained it to them once, and both of them said that I didn't see things well and was overreacting, which made me shut down for quite sometime.

+ What made me feel very uncomfortable was the fact that they had many other friends, but for a long time they both got angry whenever someone tried to get close to me. They were angry that I had found one more friend!