Woman Asks Reddit If She's Wrong for Wanting to Tell Her Brother's Fiancée That He's Tracking Her Phone
No one has the right to invade another person's privacy—partner or not.
Some secrets are hard to keep once you hear them out loud. In this case, one woman overheard her brother asking her boyfriend to secretly install a tracking app on his fiancée's new phone, and the whole situation immediately felt wrong.
She told her boyfriend she wanted to warn her brother's fiancée, but he pushed back and said she should stay out of it. That left her torn between family loyalty, privacy, and the uncomfortable feeling that someone was being watched without knowing it.
She brought the dilemma to Reddit, and the response was anything but quiet. Read on.
When Reddit user u/tellornottell3 overheard a disturbing conversation between her brother and her boyfriend, she understandably felt compelled to tell her brother's fiancée what she had heard.
Reddit / tellornottellThe Redditor's brother had asked her computer-savvy boyfriend to install a hidden tracking app on the new phone he had purchased for his fiancée.
Reddit / tellornottellThe woman brought the matter up with her boyfriend, telling him that she wanted to warn her brother's fiancée about the app.
Reddit / tellornottell
But he told her to mind her own business and stay out of it.
Reddit / tellornottell
However, the whole situation didn't sit well with our OP, so she asked the Reddit community for advice.
Reddit / tellornottell
Here's how people reacted.
"Your boyfriend is throwing out crazy red flags."
Reddit / Accomplished-Cheek59
"Classic deflection."
Reddit / rbollige
"That's just not how it works."
Reddit / blopdab
"Are you sure this is the guy for you?"
Reddit / AppalachianEnvy
Oh, the irony of it all.
Reddit / soooomanycats
This echoes the tense blowup between the Redditor and their friend about dating multiple people after asking for advice, is it wrong to confront a friend about dating multiple people after seeking advice?
She better start checking her phone!
Reddit / cunehos
The boyfriend is equally guilty.
Reddit / kitwaton
It's "controlling and abusive."
Reddit / theshadowppl9
"Check your own phone."
Reddit / FrontRowNinja
Time for a clean slate.
Reddit / TooPrettyForJail
"You would be TA if you didn't tell her about it."
Reddit / LazySwashbuckler
"TELL HER!"
Reddit / The_Turtle-Moves
Seriously!
Reddit / burgher89
"Don't say you think your boyfriend did it."
Reddit / Jack-Redcap
"Your brother's behavior is creepy and controlling."
Reddit / cunehos
"Get the f**k out of there."
Reddit / Forever_Damaged
"How would you feel if someone knew this was happening to you?"
Reddit / mmahowald
"She has the right to know."
Reddit / ArcanTemival
Check your phone, girl!
Reddit / gregorgious
"Who knows what else he's done?"
Reddit / TheKakaStorm
What's your opinion on this one? Is our OP in the wrong here, or should she absolutely tell her brother's fiancée what he's doing?
There's no denying that both the brother and OP's boyfriend are being deceptive. What right do either of them have to do something like that?
Relationships are built on trust, and sadly it seems there is little trust here at all. Leave your thoughts in the comment section; we would love to hear them!
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