GF Wants to Keep Cat Despite His Allergies: AITA for Asking Her to Cover My Meds?

It’s supposed to be cute, the whole “new kitten, new chapter” thing. But for one 18-year-old guy, the romance comes with sneezing, eye irritation, and headaches on a timer. Now they’re talking about moving in together, and he’s drawing a hard line: she has to pay for his antihistamines. She’s not thrilled about adding a daily medication cost on top of their 50/50 living split, and he’s also suggesting alternatives like cat food and “exposure therapy,” but only during a school break.

So the real question is, is he being fair, or is this turning into the girlfriend-versus-the-cat showdown?

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I (18M) have experienced cat allergies for ~3 years. My symptoms are: Eye irritation, sneezing, and headaches.

Recently my GF (19F) adopted a kitten. I didn’t think she would.

I thought her mentioning the possibility of adopting a cat was more of a hypothetical idea. When she showed me the kitten originally I told her I’m allergic to cats, to which she replied she didn’t know.

I very strongly believe I told her on a few occasions, but in her defense I probably didn’t mention it enough. Recently we have been talking about moving in together, to which I told her she would have to buy me antihistamines.

She is a bit upset at the idea of purchasing a daily amount of antihistamines, especially since we agreed to split all other living costs 50/50. However, I am very firm on my belief that it’s her responsibility to finance the medication.

Alternatively, I offered to experiment with allergy relieving cat food, and exposure therapy, but all of these would have to wait for a break period in school. For reference, I love this cat and I want her to keep it.

AITA for expecting her to pay for medication for me?

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This is like the WIBTA debate over keeping inheritance instead of giving it to nieces and nephews.

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When the kitten first showed up and he said he’s allergic, his girlfriend’s reaction made it feel like the allergy warning didn’t land.

Then the move-in conversation hit, and suddenly antihistamines were on the table, not just the shared rent plan.

He offered cat food and exposure ideas, but only after school paused, which left her stuck with the “why now?” problem.

Now he’s insisting she finance the medication because he loves the cat and wants her to keep it, and she’s still upset about the cost.

How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comments.

He might be right about the allergies, but he’s definitely picking a fight over who pays for the kitten.

Want another awkward family money moment, read about parents reacting after monetizing their piano performance.