GF Wants to Keep Cat Despite His Allergies: AITA for Asking Her to Cover My Meds?

AITA for expecting my GF to buy me cat allergy medicine if we move in together? Opinions are divided on who should bear the responsibility.

Damjan

Published in Interesting
23 Dec 2025

GF Wants to Keep Cat Despite His Allergies: AITA for Asking Her to Cover My Meds?

In the ever-complicated world of relationships, specific challenges can arise that test not only our compatibility but also our maturity. In this Reddit thread, a young man (18M) grapples with the fallout of his girlfriend's (19F) decision to adopt a kitten, despite his longstanding cat allergies.

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As the couple discusses the possibility of moving in together, the question of who should pay for allergy medication becomes a point of contention. The poster insists that since his girlfriend chose to bring a cat into their lives, it is her responsibility to purchase his antihistamines.

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This perspective has sparked a heated debate among commenters, with many expressing concern about the couple's readiness for cohabitation. While some argue that the young man should take responsibility for managing his own allergies, others question whether moving in together is a wise decision given their ages and the challenges they face.

As you dive into this thread, consider the dynamics of responsibility, communication, and the pressures of young relationships. What do you think?

Should the girlfriend be expected to cover the costs of medication, or is this an issue the young man should handle himself? Let’s explore this dilemma together and see how others weigh in on this poignant topic.

Original Post

I (18M) have experienced cat allergies for ~3 years. My symptoms are: Eye irritation, sneezing, and headaches.

Recently my GF (19F) adopted a kitten. I didn’t think she would.

I thought her mentioning the possibility of adopting a cat was more of a hypothetical idea. When she showed me the kitten originally I told her I’m allergic to cats, to which she replied she didn’t know.

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I very strongly believe I told her on a few occasions, but in her defense I probably didn’t mention it enough. Recently we have been talking about moving in together, to which I told her she would have to buy me antihistamines.

She is a bit upset at the idea of purchasing a daily amount of antihistamines, especially since we agreed to split all other living costs 50/50. However, I am very firm on my belief that it’s her responsibility to finance the medication.

Alternatively, I offered to experiment with allergy relieving cat food, and exposure therapy, but all of these would have to wait for a break period in school. For reference, I love this cat and I want her to keep it.

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AITA for expecting her to pay for medication for me?