Woman Insists on Having a Welcome Party for Her New Grandchild Immediately After Birth, So They Lie to Her About the Birthdate

It is easy to understand why people are so happy about having grandchildren. They are probably retired by then and have plenty of free time on their hands, or at least that is frequently the case.

They can make up for all the lost time with their kids. They were too busy working, running errands, doing chores, and driving the kids to different activities across town.

Now, they can finally devote themselves to enjoying time with their grandchildren because they know that the parents have the logistics covered. It is no wonder people get so excited about their grandkids.

But there is excitement, and there is plain intrusiveness. So, where is the line?

A Redditor going by the handle u/Throwa676899 asked a question: "AITA for telling my son I was disappointed after he and his wife lied about my grandson's birthdate?" Her story is interesting.

She was extremely pushy about throwing a welcome baby party for her grandson, with tons of people, on the exact same day the baby’s parents brought him home. The situation has gotten to the point that her son didn't even call her to say that she became a grandmother, probably fearing she would throw a surprise party anyway.

OP asks:

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Her son and his wife just had a baby boy

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While DIL was pregnant, OP insisted on throwing a welcome home party

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The future parents were against it. But she insisted so much that the new parents decided to hide the fact that she became a grandmother.

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OP told her son that she was disappointed in him

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And an argument started

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Some family members agree with OP's son. Now she asks if she was wrong

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Redditors were not kind to OP

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People shared customs from their parts of the country

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This is not a US thing

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Sip and see...

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is a great custom.

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A very good custom, indeed

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OP is being very invasive here

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The customs vary from one part of the country to another. Still, most people agree that the best thing to do is ask the parents when it would suit them best for you to come over and see the baby.

Another important thing is to bring your own food, do the dishes afterward, and help the new parents by doing some chores. They don’t want big parties, large crowds, or noise.

They just want to rest.

This Redditor can see the future:

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Well, you have to go with the odds...

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Just want to be in the spotlight again

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The last thing...

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OP definitely needs to work on her behavior

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Future mom agrees:

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The bottom line is:

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The OP here went way over the line. She had no right to impose her views and insist on something that is so irrelevant in the eyes of the new parents.

A big party is the last thing on their minds. They just want to rest, eat, sleep, and take a shower before the baby wakes up and they have to do it all over again.

Be helpful, don't create more problems.