Absolutely Ridiculous Father Tries To Convince His Wife That Their 1-Year-Old Son Is Obviously Gay

A Reddit mom thought she was dealing with an awkward joke, until her husband started insisting their 1-year-old son was showing signs of being gay. The claim was bizarre enough on its own, but the way he kept doubling down made the whole situation feel even more uncomfortable. From shiny objects to flowers to a banana, he keeps reading sexuality into things that have nothing to do with it, and his wife is left trying to figure out how seriously to take him.

Now the internet is weighing in, and his logic is not holding up well.

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The couple, in their 20s, have a 1-year-old son together.

At the ripe age of one, a toddler has barely just exited the stage of "baby," and you'll find that many people (especially parents and early childhood experts) would still consider a one-year-old to be a "literal baby." Therefore, keep that in mind while you read what this man says about his little one.

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What reasons has this irrational man listed as "proof" that their son must be gay?

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Dr. Altmann explains on Parents.com why babies like shiny and sparkly things:

"Shiny, sparkly things do catch a baby's attention."

Whether it is light refracting through a window or jewelry, those shiny and moving lights are irresistible to babies and toddlers, and it starts young!

"Jewelry reflects the light, and a baby's eyes are drawn to it, usually starting as early as 4 months, around the time when their eyes start working together."Pinterest

Not the makeup. Doesn't he know that's for *checks notes* women and the gays? Um, okay.

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According to Romper: "Most babies develop a preference for their mother within 2 to 4 months of age. From birth, the combination of sight, smell, and sound likely all help babies distinguish their mother from others."

But according to ding-dong daddy, it's actually because the baby is gay.

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This baby ate a banana? GAY.

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He likes to look at - and touch - flowers? GAY.

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What in the ever-living... is anyone else speechless?

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Did this woman actually marry and procreate with the Disney villain Gaston?

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You know what? Nobody knows what to say to that.

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Wearing thin? How is it not totally obsolete?

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This is my patience just reading this nonsense:

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Honestly.

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You probably WOULD like to think that, but I'm afraid you are likely missing the obvious signs that he's homophobic.

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"Of course..." NOT

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Toxic masculinity is described as: "a set of attitudes and ways of behaving stereotypically associated with or expected of men, regarded as having a negative impact on men and on society as a whole."

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Girl, no, this is actually something you need to worry about! You made a baby - a whole human being - with a bigot.

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This is beyond embarrassing... it's mortifying.

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His behavior is otherwise totally on par with someone who is not a bigot, apparently. Perhaps OP is missing the hints and clues along the way?

What is this man projecting with this unusual behavior?

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There's a lot to unpack here, mom.

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"Even though he's just a baby."

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KidsHealth.org explains:

"Being straight, gay, or bisexual is not something that a person can choose or choose to change. In fact, people don't choose their sexual orientation any more than they choose their height or eye color. It is estimated that about 10% of people are gay. Gay people are represented in all walks of life, across all nationalities, ethnic backgrounds, and in all social and economic groups.No one fully understands exactly what determines a person's sexual orientation, but it is likely explained by a variety of biological and genetic factors. Medical experts and organizations such as the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the American Psychological Association (APA) view sexual orientation as part of someone's nature. Being gay is also not considered a mental disorder or abnormality.Despite myths and misconceptions, there is no evidence that being gay is caused by early childhood experiences, parenting styles, or the way someone is raised.Efforts to change gay people to straight (sometimes called "conversion therapy") have been proven to be ineffective and can be harmful. Health and mental health professionals caution against any efforts to change a person's sexual orientation."

Also, this is similar to the parents debating whether to keep their baby’s gender secret after an unwanted gender reveal.

Reddit users chimed in with enthusiasm from various walks of life.

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This commenter is not buying the dad's logic at all.

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Dad definitely needs therapy; he clearly has SOMETHING to unpack... and he ought to do it before it causes harm to his child.

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Your discomfort is rational.

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In 2018, a report from the Human Rights Campaign discovered that a whopping 78% of LGBTQ+ youth who are not out at home (meaning their families do not know they are LGBTQ+) hear their families make negative comments about LGBTQ+ people.

It would seem that OP's husband has a lot to learn about this concept.

Is he a closet gay? Possibly.

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Truly, a mystery.

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Toxic masculinity has perpetuated harmful stereotypes in unexpected ways.

According to VeryWellMind.com:

"Traditional societal views of masculinity have a negative impact on every member of society, but studies show they have a greater impact on the self-image, relationships, and overall mental health of gay men."davidnissim

Gonna have to agree with this idea.

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Sometimes people broadcast their insecurities in the worst ways.

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Fair enough.

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MMmmm, cherry pie.

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In an ideal world, LGBTQ+ folks and their friends (and families) wouldn't have to worry about microaggressions, but the unfortunate truth is that the little things become big things, and those become harmful things. We can only hope that this anonymous mom seeking support and guidance on Reddit is able to tackle this atrocious issue with her husband and a qualified therapist (or two) before it does come to the detriment of their innocent child.

Whether he is gay or not is irrelevant; the harm of perpetuating "gay" as a bad thing has negative implications that far exceed the scope of this dad's narrow view.

For another family showdown, read about the mom who refused to disclose her baby’s gender to pushy in-laws.