Neighbor Returns Lawnmower Broken Twice: AITA for Refusing to Lend It Again?

It started with a simple loan, one lawnmower, one neighbor, and one very avoidable disaster. OP says his neighbor, Tom, asked to borrow his mower last summer, and OP agreed like a normal good neighbor does.

But the mower came back broken. Tom said it happened while he was using it, then offered to pay for the repairs. OP accepted the apology and the money, then tried to move on. So when Tom asked again last week, OP hesitated, but relented because Tom seemed genuinely sorry.

Except, surprise, the mower was damaged again, this time from a “rock” and a bent blade that needs a full replacement. Now OP is wondering if Tom’s “accidents” are just a pattern, and he wants to know if refusing a third loan makes him the jerk.

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So I'm (38M) and I've always tried to be a good neighbor. Last summer, my neighbor, let's call him Tom, asked to borrow my lawnmower.

I usually don't mind lending things out, so I agreed. Unfortunately, when Tom returned it, the lawnmower was broken.

He claimed it happened while he was using it and offered to pay for the repairs. I accepted his apology and payment.

Fast forward to last week, Tom asked to borrow my lawnmower again. I hesitated because of what happened last time but eventually agreed since he seemed genuinely apologetic.

I gave him the lawnmower and told him to be careful with it. A few days later, Tom returned it, and once again, it was damaged.

I was frustrated and asked what happened. Tom said he accidentally hit a big rock and the blade got bent.

I inspected it, and it's not a simple fix like last time; it needs a complete replacement. I told Tom that I wouldn't be lending him my lawnmower anymore since he doesn't seem to take care of it.

He got upset and said I was being unreasonable because accidents happen. He even mentioned how other neighbors lend things without any issues.

I understand accidents happen, but this is the second time my lawnmower was returned damaged after lending it to him. I feel like it's not a coincidence anymore.

So AITA for refusing to lend my neighbor my lawnmower after they returned it broken last time?

In the unfolding saga of lawnmower lending gone wrong, the refusal to lend the lawnmower a third time serves as a crucial boundary in the relationship between neighbors. After two instances of returning the lawnmower damaged, the decision to withhold the tool is not merely a protective measure but a statement of self-respect and accountability. Setting such boundaries is essential to ensure that acceptable behaviors are clearly defined, preventing future misunderstandings. By saying 'no' to another loan, the homeowner is fostering a more respectful dynamic and encouraging the neighbor, Tom, to take responsibility for his actions. This approach not only safeguards personal property but also sets the stage for a healthier relationship moving forward.

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Tom got a second chance after paying for the first repair, and OP still thought the relationship was salvageable.

In this case, the original lender could have established explicit terms before lending the lawnmower, such as requiring a deposit for potential repairs or a signed agreement outlining responsibility for damages. This proactive approach could prevent future conflicts and foster a more cooperative neighborly relationship.

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A few days after OP lent the lawnmower again, Tom returned it damaged for the second time, same tool, same problem.

It’s a lot like asking your husband to sell his second car to pay off debt.

In these situations, taking a step back to assess the emotions at play can lead to a more constructive dialogue. Understanding one's emotional triggers can facilitate better discussions about boundaries, leading to resolutions that respect both parties' needs.

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OP pushed back when he saw the blade needed a complete replacement, not another quick fix like last time.

In this case, the lender should weigh the benefits of maintaining a good relationship with the neighborhood against the risk of further damage. If the risk outweighs the potential benefits, it’s prudent to decline to lend the lawnmower and explore alternatives, such as renting or buying a backup mower.

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Tom fired back that “accidents happen” and compared himself to other neighbors who lend stuff without issues, like OP is the only one keeping score.

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The saga of the broken lawnmower highlights the delicate balance of neighborly relations.

The fact that the lawnmower has returned damaged on two occasions suggests a troubling pattern of neglect that can easily breed resentment and dissatisfaction.

By choosing to decline further loans, the homeowner is not merely safeguarding their property; they are actively promoting a sense of responsibility and mutual respect in their relationship with Tom. This dynamic is essential for preserving a peaceful neighborhood environment.

OP’s done being the guy who keeps fixing Tom’s lawnmower.

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