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Woman Tells Her Parents to Pay Her College Expenses in Exchange for a Relationship

If your family doesn't support your dreams and goals, keep going because you can still succeed without their help.

Woman Tells Her Parents to Pay Her College Expenses in Exchange for a Relationship

Have you ever felt jealous of a sibling who can go out with their friends and come home late at night while you, on the other hand, are not allowed to do so because you are young, or worse, because you are a woman? It might be out of your parents' protectiveness that they don't let you hang out at night, but surely you can't help but wish you were as free as your siblings or other teens your age.

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Women born into families that practice sexism find it challenging to access things like education, employment, and other opportunities that are mostly given to men in the family. This occurs because parents or heads of these families continuously believe in socially constructed ideas of gender roles, which often manifest as discrimination or stereotypes.

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Even though society is evolving and increasingly recognizing women's voices, there are still instances where women are deprived of their rights. An example is a woman on Reddit who shared how her parents treated her as the only female child.

Using the username DaisyChained89, she posted her story about how her parents sought reconciliation after years of letting her struggle on her own without financial and moral support to finish her degree because they believed women should stay at home. However, when she asked them to pay for her college expenses, as they did for her brothers, in exchange for forgiveness, her family thought she was being unreasonable.

Women should be given equal opportunities like men to study, work, and grow personally.

Women should be given equal opportunities like men to study, work, and grow personally.Hannah Olinger (not the actual photo)
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Raised by parents who believed in rigid gender roles.

Raised by parents who believed in rigid gender roles.Reddit/DaisyChained89
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As a result, OP's education and achievements were never valued by her parents.

As a result, OP's education and achievements were never valued by her parents.Reddit/DaisyChained89

Her parents supported her two brothers' education while she wasn't allowed to apply for college.

Her parents supported her two brothers' education while she wasn't allowed to apply for college.Reddit/DaisyChained89

She applied secretly, received a partial scholarship, and struggled on her own to finish a degree in engineering.

She applied secretly, received a partial scholarship, and struggled on her own to finish a degree in engineering.Reddit/DaisyChained89

Her parents wanted to have a relationship with her after she became successful and had a family of her own.

Her parents wanted to have a relationship with her after she became successful and had a family of her own.Reddit/DaisyChained89

In exchange for forgiving them, OP asked them to pay $100K for her degree and college expenses.

In exchange for forgiving them, OP asked them to pay $100K for her degree and college expenses.Reddit/DaisyChained Reddit/DaisyChained89

#1

#1 Reddit/HelenDamnnation

#2 They just wanted to reconnect with you because you're fulfilling womanly duties.

#2 They just wanted to reconnect with you because you're fulfilling womanly duties.Reddit/justauser34

#3 Stay away from that kind of people.

#3 Stay away from that kind of people.Reddit

#4 Sexism isn't okay, and they clearly made you a slave all those years.

#4 Sexism isn't okay, and they clearly made you a slave all those years.Reddit

#5 As long as you and your husband are happy, their opinions shouldn't matter.

#5 As long as you and your husband are happy, their opinions shouldn't matter.Reddit/percipientbias

#6 Parents should be proud of their children's accomplishments, regardless of gender.

#6 Parents should be proud of their children's accomplishments, regardless of gender.Reddit/s14sher

#7 If they're truly sorry, they should tell you exactly what they are sorry for.

#7 If they're truly sorry, they should tell you exactly what they are sorry for.Reddit/B***hInBoots66

#8 It wasn't an apology, just an excuse to have access to your baby.

#8 It wasn't an apology, just an excuse to have access to your baby.Reddit/OuchLOLcom

#9 Don't let them poison your family.

#9 Don't let them poison your family.Reddit/ij_d

#10 Treating you like that because you're a woman is just cruel.

#10 Treating you like that because you're a woman is just cruel.Reddit/BaconFaceHappyPants

#11 Admiring your strength and perseverance in pursuing your degree despite having a family like that.

#11 Admiring your strength and perseverance in pursuing your degree despite having a family like that.Reddit/Mission_Spray

#12 Continue to live your life by your own principles.

#12 Continue to live your life by your own principles.Reddit/Jo_NJ

#13 Your parents aren't sorry.

#13 Your parents aren't sorry.Reddit/SilenceConnoisseur

#14 If your parents are sincere, they should have tried to meet your demands.

#14 If your parents are sincere, they should have tried to meet your demands.Reddit/Trasl0

#15 Financial ties will put more pressure on your relationship in the future.

#15 Financial ties will put more pressure on your relationship in the future.Reddit

#16 It's a prove-your-love kind of situation.

#16 It's a prove-your-love kind of situation.Reddit/BitterFuture

#17 Pushing others to burn bridges.

#17 Pushing others to burn bridges.Reddit/isthisMrMace

Not everyone is lucky enough to have a supportive family, and OP is living proof of that. However, it is not yet the end of the world because there are still people out there who will see the potential in you and help you along the way, such as friends and loved ones.

What matters is that you don't give up on yourself and pursue your happiness. Like and share for more amazing stories!

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