Woman Tells Her Parents to Pay Her College Expenses in Exchange for a Relationship
If your family doesn't support your dreams and goals, keep going because you can still succeed without their help.
Some family conflicts start with money, but this one started with years of being treated differently. A woman on Reddit says her parents backed her brothers through college, while she was expected to stay home and figure things out on her own.
Using the username DaisyChained89, she shared how she secretly applied for school, earned a partial scholarship, and pushed through an engineering degree without her parents' support. Now that her family wants to reconnect, she has one condition, they should cover the college costs they refused to pay before.
That demand has turned a painful family history into a fresh argument.
Women should be given equal opportunities like men to study, work, and grow personally.
Hannah Olinger (not the actual photo)Raised by parents who believed in rigid gender roles.
Reddit/DaisyChained89As a result, OP's education and achievements were never valued by her parents.
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Her parents supported her two brothers' education while she wasn't allowed to apply for college.
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She applied secretly, received a partial scholarship, and struggled on her own to finish a degree in engineering.
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Her parents wanted to have a relationship with her after she became successful and had a family of her own.
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In exchange for forgiving them, OP asked them to pay $100K for her degree and college expenses.
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That request put the whole family on the spot.
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It’s a similar power struggle to the AITA case where she was pressured to lend money for her sister’s failing business.
#2 They just wanted to reconnect with you because you're fulfilling womanly duties.
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#3 Stay away from that kind of people.
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#4 Sexism isn't okay, and they clearly made you a slave all those years.
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#5 As long as you and your husband are happy, their opinions shouldn't matter.
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#6 Parents should be proud of their children's accomplishments, regardless of gender.
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#7 If they're truly sorry, they should tell you exactly what they are sorry for.
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#8 It wasn't an apology, just an excuse to have access to your baby.
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#9 Don't let them poison your family.
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#10 Treating you like that because you're a woman is just cruel.
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#11 Admiring your strength and perseverance in pursuing your degree despite having a family like that.
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#12 Continue to live your life by your own principles.
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#13 Your parents aren't sorry.
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#14 If your parents are sincere, they should have tried to meet your demands.
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#15 Financial ties will put more pressure on your relationship in the future.
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#16 It's a prove-your-love kind of situation.
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#17 Pushing others to burn bridges.
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Not everyone is lucky enough to have a supportive family, and OP is living proof of that. However, it is not yet the end of the world because there are still people out there who will see the potential in you and help you along the way, such as friends and loved ones.
What matters is that you don't give up on yourself and pursue your happiness. Like and share for more amazing stories!
Wait, did you see the AITA fight where she refused to enable her sister’s debt? Read what happened when finances came before family pressure.
