Man Chooses To Priortize New Year's Celebration With Girlfriend Over Friends, Now His Female Friend Won't Talk To Him Anymore
Is it really about New Year's, or has she been jealous all along?
This story centers on a small group of friends who had already agreed to spend the holiday together when one small request shifted everything.
The OP’s (Original Poster’s) girlfriend wanted to spend New Year’s with him, so he did what most people would do and asked his friends if she could join their celebration.
One person in the friend group immediately said yes. But the second person stayed quiet at first, then admitted she felt uncomfortable.
Her concern had less to do with the girlfriend herself and more to do with a past situation where refusing a similar request ended a friendship. She feared repeating that outcome.
The problem was that this friend could point out a reason why OP’s girlfriend wasn’t welcome. It just seemed like a typical situation of power-play, where she wanted to say “no” for the sake of it.
At this point, OP started making suggestions. The first was choosing different days to celebrate…one with his girlfriend, and another day would be for them. Or, they could suspend their plans and come over to his house to celebrate with him and his girlfriend.
Regardless of his efforts to accommodate everyone, OP’s female friend was completely uninterested. It was either their original plan or nothing!
In the end, he decided to prioritize his girlfriend and spend time with her during the holidays. But he made sure to explain that he would still be committed to his friends as time permits.
Unfortunately, this didn’t go down well with his female friend. From that day, she went completely silent on him. No argument…just silence!
Now he’s left wondering if he crossed a line or if this is less about New Year’s and more about deeper issues he’s not aware of.
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Reddit.comAfter OP realized that his female friend was not comfortable with him including his girlfriend in their New Year plans, he decided to prioritize his girlfriend. Unfortunately, she cut him off for this
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We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
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“NTA- BIG red flag. Does she have feelings for you? Because that is what it comes across as.”
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“The only reason your friend has to be acting like this is that she wants more from you.”
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“NTA….It sounds like she wants to be the only female in her group of guy friends.
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“NTA. Your friend sounds like she caught feelings for you or wants to be the center of attention.”
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“NTA…She's being incredibly weird and controlling about everything.”
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“She has admitted to not letting other people bring their partners simply because she doesn’t want them to.”
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“Sounds like one of those crazy mental head games where she's testing your friendship.”
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“She is causing an issue. Don't fall to her level. Prioritise gf and don't fall for the game.”
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“NTA Why do you think this is your fault. That woman has control issues and petty jealousy issues.”
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Netizens are fully on OP’s side on this matter. In fact, there is suspicion that OP’s female friend may have feelings for him and is feeling jealous that he’s making his girlfriend a priority.
It was also worrying to know that in the past, she also stopped another of their friend from adding a plus-one to their holiday plan.
In all, OP has been encouraged to enjoy his holiday with his partner and worry less about his female friend. Maybe she will back track, or maybe she’ll be out of his life forever. Time will tell.
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