Roommate Conflict: AITA for Playing Guitar Late at Night?

Living next to another musician sounds peaceful, until it turns into a nightly sound test you did not agree to take. In this apartment, one roommate is a producer who can make weekends feel like a studio session, while the other is a guitarist who says he was upfront about playing late.

The complication is that they both have different schedules, and both claim they are being reasonable. The producer works during the week and wakes up early, but the guitarist works weekends and plays almost every day, often right before sleep, with a nylon-string guitar, no amp, and no “crazy” songs. Still, when she hears him late and tells him to “take it somewhere else,” he snaps back with the “you don’t hear me complaining on the weekends” line, calling it unfair.

Now it’s a roommate war over closed doors, early mornings, and who gets to wind down.

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I live in a apt with this girl (who is a producer) and when I was interviewed for the room, I was asked if it would bother me to hear music at late hours (due to the rooms being right next to each other) to which I said I didn't because I myself play guitar and sometimes like to stay until late listening to music. She works during the week and wakes up early, meanwhile I work weekends and get two days off during the week.

She makes music on the weekends, which I can hear even though both our doors are closed, but I personally don't make a big fuss (because I agreed to these terms) and just close my eyes until I pass out. I play guitar almost everyday during different times, but my favourite is to do it before I go to sleep, since it helps me wind down and sleep better, mind you I use a nylon string guitar with no amp, and no crazy songs.

However, I recently got a message from her saying that I needed to "take it somewhere else" because she had to get up early. It feels unfair that I have to accommodate, when she's also doing the same by keeping me up when I have to be up early..

I even mentioned to her that earplugs are a great idea so we can both play freely, but she doesn't want to meet me in the middle... Am I the A*****e for replying "You don't hear me complaining on the weekends"

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She agreed to late-night music when they moved in, but somehow that promise starts evaporating the moment her early wakeup schedule becomes a problem.

Meanwhile, he’s quietly powering through her weekend sessions, even though he can still hear the production through two closed doors.

Then his nylon-string routine before bed hits a nerve, and her message turns from “we should be mindful” to “take it somewhere else.”

After he suggests earplugs so they can both play freely, she refuses to “meet in the middle,” so he responds with pure weekend logic.

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He might not be the villain for playing guitar, but the “you don’t complain on weekends” argument is exactly how this roommate situation keeps escalating.

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