Should I Change Roommates Last Minute for University Freshman Housing?

WIBTA for changing my roommate last minute? College freshman debates if they should switch roommates due to personality differences, seeking advice on Reddit.

Damjan

Published in Interesting
4 Mar 2026

Should I Change Roommates Last Minute for University Freshman Housing?

Roommate decisions at freshman orientation hit different, because once you click “submit,” it feels like you just signed a tiny lease to a whole new personality. In this Reddit story, OP said yes to being roommates with a girl they barely know, and now they are stuck watching the housing portal timer like it’s a countdown to regret.

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They met through a college prep and tutoring program, talked briefly, then the girl asked to room together after they found out they were going to the same university. OP is worried they will not mesh, because the girl is loud, funny, and sometimes obnoxious, and her mom matches that energy too, with constant cussing and rude vibes. OP is more reserved with strangers, but outgoing once comfortable, so the mismatch feels like it could turn into daily friction.

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Now OP is debating whether to reject the roommate request last minute, before the 2-bed, 1-bath freshman setup locks in their fate.

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I met this girl through a college prep/tutoring program. We talked briefly.

I don't really know her, to be honest. Last session, after she found out we were going to the same university, she asked if I wanted to be roommates.

My dumbass said yes instead of maybe. She seems nice enough, to be honest, so this is not really on her.

I'm more concerned if we would mesh, to be honest. Our personalities are polar opposites.

She's very loud and funny but can be kind of obnoxious and annoying sometimes. Yesterday, I was on the phone with her, and her mom was the same way, just loud and obnoxious, always cussing and kind of rude.

I don't want to say that just because her mom is a bit unorthodox that that automatically means she will be, but Idk I'm just scared. I'm sort of nerdy and more reserved around people I don't know, but when I'm comfortable, I can be outgoing.

It's been about two weeks now and the housing application has just opened. I'm debating on putting down different preferences/rejecting her inquiry in the portal all together.

I don't know. Am I writing her off too early?

I know that I don't have to be buddy buddy with my roommate, but I don't want any issues. It's a 2bed 1 bath for freshmen, so we'd only share the bathroom and kitchen.