Should I Have Given Tough Pregnancy Advice to My Friend? | Reddit
"Struggling with a friend's risky pregnancy choices - seeking advice on whether I'm in the wrong or just trying to help, AITA?"
A 28-year-old woman refused to slow down during pregnancy, and her closest friend is now regretting the moment she tried to be “helpful.” The whole thing started with Sarah, who keeps sharing her pregnancy updates like it’s all sunshine and butterflies, right up until the details get… concerning.
OP, 29F, says Sarah has always been stubborn and can’t handle criticism. So when Sarah admitted she’s been doing things that are risky during pregnancy, OP stepped in with a gentle reality check, telling her to reconsider and put the baby first. It did not land gently.
Now OP is stuck wondering if her tough love was actually support, or if it just blew up the friendship for good.
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So I'm (29F) and my close friend, Sarah (28F), is currently pregnant. She's been excited about it, sharing every little detail about her pregnancy journey.
However, she's been making some questionable choices, like not following her doctor's recommendations and indulging in risky activities. For background, Sarah has always been stubborn and doesn't take criticism well.
She's known for shutting down when confronted about her decisions. Recently, Sarah mentioned that she's been engaging in activities that are not safe during pregnancy.
I care about her and her baby's well-being, so I felt compelled to offer some advice. I gently suggested that she should reconsider her choices and prioritize the baby's health above all else.
However, Sarah didn't take it well. She got defensive, accusing me of being judgmental and overly critical.
Our conversation turned heated, and she accused me of not being supportive. Now, I'm torn.
I only wanted what's best for her and the baby, but our friendship is on rocky ground. So, WIBTA for giving my friend tough pregnancy advice that could upset her?
I honestly don't know if I'm wrong here and really need outside perspective.
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This is similar to the AITA poster who got backlash for unsolicited pregnancy advice after her friend protested.
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OP thought a calm talk would help, but Sarah immediately got defensive and accused her of being judgmental.
The conversation turned heated fast, the kind of argument where Sarah shuts down instead of listening to OP’s point.
OP is now replaying every “questionable choice,” especially the risky activities Sarah mentioned after all the cheerful pregnancy updates.
With the friendship already on rocky ground, OP has to decide whether speaking up was brave or just the final push over the edge.
What do you think about this situation? Let us know in the comments.
OP might have cared the most, but Sarah is the one who feels attacked, and that’s why this dinner did not end well.
OP wonders if she should refuse unconventional pregnancy advice when her friend begged her to stop, should she refuse to give pregnancy advice against her beliefs?
