Should I Post Pictures of My Sister Without Her Consent?

A 29-year-old woman is stuck in a fight with her 27-year-old sister, and it all started over something that should be simple: posting photos from family events.

OP loves taking pictures with her sister, especially when they are dressed up for weddings, holidays, and big group gatherings. But her sister hates photos, not because she wants to hide, but because she feels insecure about how she looks. So OP posts the pictures she likes anyway, then refuses to take them down when her sister asks, even offering to remove tags instead. Her sister is not buying it, arguing that if she is in the photo, she should get a say, especially since people they both know follow OP.

Now the sister is giving OP the silent treatment, and OP is wondering if she is crossing a line or if her sister is trying to control what gets shared.

Original Post

Hi,

My (29F) sister (27F) has insecurity issues and hates taking photos/hates the way she looks in most pictures. I still insist on us taking photos together as I love her and want the memories and believe she will too someday.

Plus, a lot of the time we are at events together where we are really dressed up, so I want good pictures (think family weddings, holidays, etc). The issue is that sometimes there are pictures I really like that she is in (and doesn't like of herself).

I want to post the pictures!! Either because I look good or because they are group pictures with other people that I want to share.

I have started just posting them and refusing to take them down if she asks because I think it's ridiculous for her to try and control what I post on my social media. My argument is that they are pictures of me and others (that she happens to be in) and therefore I have the right to post them. If she doesn't like them, I will remove the tag of her.

Her argument is they are photos she is in, and she has the right to request they not be shared publicly if she doesn't like them. She also argues that because she knows a lot of people who I have on social media (i.e.

people from our high school / when we were growing up, her friends who follow me, extended family, etc.), the pictures are still being seen by people she knows whether they are tagged or not. She also says that she tries to avoid being in the pictures, but since I or other people tell her to get in them, it's not fair to then post them without her consent.

She recently asked that I take down a group photo she is in but I told her it's not my problem that she doesn't like the picture and that I have a right to post what I want. She is now not speaking to me because she thinks I am being selfish and inconsiderate for not respecting her desire not to be on social media.

AITAH for this or is she overstepping by trying to control what I am allowed to post and needs to deal with her insecurity?

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It all kicks off after OP insists on taking pictures together at big events like family weddings and holidays, even though her sister openly hates being photographed.

Then OP starts posting the group pics she likes, and when her sister asks for them to be removed, OP draws the line at refusing to take them down and only offering to remove the tag.

That is when the sister hits OP with the real-life problem of visibility, saying high school friends, extended family, and her own friends will still see the photos even if she is untagged.

The final straw is when the sister requests OP take down a specific group photo, and OP tells her it is not her issue, leading to her not speaking to OP at all.

What do you think about this situation? Let us know in the comments.

Nobody wins when love turns into a social media battle over who gets to be seen.

Wait until you hear how this piano performance and a monetized tip jar turned parents into drama magnets, after their reaction to being monetized.