Should I Post Pictures of My Sister Without Her Consent?

AITAH for posting photos my sister doesn't like? Discover the social media dilemma surrounding consent, boundaries, and sibling dynamics in this thought-provoking post.

Damjan

Published in Interesting
24 Dec 2025

Should I Post Pictures of My Sister Without Her Consent?

In the age of social media, the lines between personal boundaries and shared memories can blur, leading to conflicts that catch family members off guard. In this Reddit thread, a 29-year-old woman finds herself at odds with her younger sister over the sharing of family photos.

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The older sister loves capturing memories together, especially during special occasions. Still, her younger sibling struggles with insecurities about her appearance and has expressed a strong desire not to be posted online. The crux of the disagreement centers on the older sister's insistence on posting photos that include her sibling, despite knowing her sibling dislikes how she looks in those images.

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The younger sister argues that she has every right to request that her image not be shared publicly, especially given their shared social circles. Meanwhile, the older sister maintains that since it's her social media and the photos include others, she should be free to post them as she wishes.

As the tension escalates, the older sister's decision to disregard her sister’s feelings has created a rift between them, raising the question: Where do we draw the line when it comes to sharing moments with others? Join the discussion and share your thoughts on this complex dilemma of personal boundaries, family loyalty, and the implications of social media.

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Hi, My (29F) sister (27F) has insecurity issues and hates taking photos/hates the way she looks in most pictures. I still insist on us taking photos together as I love her and want the memories and believe she will too someday.

Plus, a lot of the time we are at events together where we are really dressed up, so I want good pictures (think family weddings, holidays, etc). The issue is that sometimes there are pictures I really like that she is in (and doesn't like of herself).

I want to post the pictures!! Either because I look good or because they are group pictures with other people that I want to share.

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I have started just posting them and refusing to take them down if she asks because I think its ridiculous for her to try and control what I post on my social media. My argument is that they are pictures of me and others (that she happens to be in) and therefore I have the right to post them, if she doesn't like them I will remove the tag of her.

Her argument is they are photos she is in, and she has the right to request they not be shared publicly if she doesn't like them. She also argues that because she knows a lot of people who I have on social media (i.e.

people from our high school / when we were growing up, her friends who follow me, extended family, etc.), the pictures are still being seen by people she knows whether they are tagged or not. She also says that she tries to avoid being in the pictures, but since I or other people tell her to get in them, its not fair to then post them without her consent.

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She recently asked that I take down a group photo she is in but I told her its not my problem that she doesn't like the picture and that I have a right to post what I want. She is now not speaking to me because she things I am being selfish and inconsiderate for not respecting her desire not to be on social media.

AITAH for this or is she overstepping by trying to control what I am allowed to post and needs to deal with her insecurity?