'Grinch' Wife Gets Accused Of Ruining Her Husband's Dream When She Refused To Host Holiday Dinner For His Family

One Reddit wife is being called a Grinch after refusing to host Christmas dinner for her husband’s family, and the fallout is already getting messy. She does not celebrate the holiday because of her religion, and she says she has never been the one to plan or cook a big Christmas gathering.

The problem started when her husband told relatives they would be hosting next year before she had agreed to anything. He loves Christmas and comes from a large, festive family, but OP says she was suddenly expected to handle the food, the work, and the whole event herself.

Now her husband is upset, his family is weighing in, and OP is standing her ground. Read on.

OP made it clear that it's not her responsibility to host Christmas for him and his family.

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Now, OP's husband is accusing her of ruining his lifelong wish to host Christmas.

He also told his mother and sister and informed them about OP's decision. OP's mother and sister-in-law have been contacting her non-stop to ask why she's being such a 'Grinch'.

OP is not backing down from her decision not to host. But since her husband is sulking, OP is wondering if she should just suck it up this once.

Read OP's original post below:

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Do you get a Christmas bonus if you do all the grunt work?

Squinky75

If the husband has been dreaming of hosting Christmas his whole life, why doesn't he do all the work himself?

CaliforniaJade

We second this motion

JadieJang

Dear Husband (DH) should organize, plan, and execute everything.

JadieJang

It also echoes the sister who got excluded from an annual dinner, and the family split over the reschedule.

An old-timer has an anecdote that might help OP...

TryToDoGoodTA

... with a little life lesson...

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... and bulleted points to show OP's hubby

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OP is clearly not a willing participant, as she doesn't even partake in the celebration.

TryToDoGoodTA

The MIL and SIL have been waiting for the opportunity to pass all the work to someone else.

EinsTwo

It's childish behavior, is it not? Does the husband know that *spoiler alert* Santa doesn't leave all those presents?

natidiscgirl

It's time for the husband to woman up and do as he promised.

LuluLucy-

Possibly a solution for OP's dilemma

jennylala707

The potluck idea has a lot of traction.

Theemillershow

The implication being OP is a Grinch and ruining the husband's lifelong dream.

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Women are the reason why Christmases have been magical for a lot of people. Recognize.

saramole

The husband is the main host while OP can help out every now and then.

lifetooshort4bs

Someone asked OP if she was against hosting Christmas at her home and why.

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If someone experienced is already dishing out how difficult it is to host a family for Christmas, can you imagine how OP will successfully navigate it when she has no prior experience?

Steups13

OP shared that her strong disagreement might have been rooted in something deeper and more personal.

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The moderators of the forum also shared why OP thinks she could be at fault here, and she will probably suck it up just this once.

Judgement_Bot_AITA

It's unfair what the husband did. OP did nothing wrong by declining the husband's decision to host Christmas when she knows she can't deliver what he's expecting.

Feel free to enumerate why the husband is at fault here down in the comments. If you think he's well within his rights to volunteer his wife to do all the laborious and exhausting tasks, then you can share your thoughts as well.

He should not have promised a holiday she never agreed to host.

Before you decide who hosts, read about the OP who skipped her sister’s birthday after her controlling husband tried to dictate everything.