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30 Women Share Their Experiences Of Giving A "Nice Guy" A Chance And How They Came Out The Other Side

Is it worth dating a nice guy? Considering the unofficial definition of a nice guy, no. However, some nice guys really are kind humans.

30 Women Share Their Experiences Of Giving A "Nice Guy" A Chance And How They Came Out The Other Side

Dating is quite challenging, especially these days when people have limited face-to-face interactions. In the getting-to-know stage, it is important to look for both the positive and negative attributes that you seek in a partner and choose someone you believe would be compatible with you.

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Although it is possible to get to know someone online, there are things that one cannot learn just by talking over the phone, chatting, or video calling. Additionally, many people are skilled at pretending.

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There is a well-known "nice guy syndrome" that describes individuals who, despite their supposedly pleasing personalities, regularly complain about their lack of luck in love and who, in reality, turn out to be quite awful people. How can you differentiate a real "nice guy" from a fake one, knowing they have strategies to keep women in the relationship?

To gain insight into what it is like to deal with a genuinely good man versus a bad one, a Reddit user named u/Jin_Kazama_18 asked fellow female members in the r/AskReddit community how things turned out when they decided to give "nice guys" a chance. The post garnered 20.4K likes and 9.3K comments, featuring a mixture of both wonderful and traumatic stories from women who dated these so-called "nice guys".

1. Be thankful you're not stuck with a disloyal person hiding behind a nice guy facade.

1. Be thankful you're not stuck with a disloyal person hiding behind a nice guy facade.Reddit/Realistic-Ad5265| neajjean
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2. He was her savior from a high school heartbreak.

2. He was her savior from a high school heartbreak.Reddit/nanasnuggets| Courtney Carmody
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3. A big and loud "NOPE!"

3. A big and loud Reddit/Particular-Ad7034| Jeff Dlouhy

4. He is definitely not slowing down.

4. He is definitely not slowing down.Reddit/Radiant_Obligation_3| Nick Webb

5. His mentality is messed up.

5. His mentality is messed up.Reddit/Animefaerie| Alexa LaSpisa

6. He is invalidating your achievements and making you feel inferior.

6. He is invalidating your achievements and making you feel inferior.Reddit/Unusual_Locksmith_91| Old Photo Profile

7. This is totally creepy.

7. This is totally creepy.Reddit/ayarbee| Piutus

8. Being pregnant with the nice guy's child.

8. Being pregnant with the nice guy's child.Reddit/cottagelass,Janine

9. Oh no.

9. Oh no.Reddit/LetsGoVovo| apnlivedigital

10. What a twisted storyteller.

10. What a twisted storyteller.Reddit/pannndora| Eric Chan

11. Kidnapped and assaulted, but got a chance to escape.

11. Kidnapped and assaulted, but got a chance to escape.Reddit/bavelos| Micah Baldwin

12. Avoid anyone who tries to isolate you from your family and friends.

12. Avoid anyone who tries to isolate you from your family and friends.Reddit/Allys-post| Martin Stabenfeldt

13. Hoping you'll recover from that fear soon.

13. Hoping you'll recover from that fear soon.Reddit/CosmicHyena24| Alexa LaSpisa

14. That person does not know what love is.

14. That person does not know what love is.Reddit/ilan_gyal| Andy Arthur

15. Hopefully, that's the end of their relationship.

15. Hopefully, that's the end of their relationship.Reddit/VenusSwift| Sara

16. He should know that a dating app is not a place to look for friends.

16. He should know that a dating app is not a place to look for friends.Reddit/gofish112| chany crystal

17. He would surely categorize all the women he used to date in that way.

17. He would surely categorize all the women he used to date in that way.Reddit/thegirlwhodied_| Tim Green

18. Did he date you to be his "best picture picker"?

18. Did he date you to be his Reddit/pinsnneedless| Ivan Radic

19. It is a predator's trap.

19. It is a predator's trap.Reddit/4catsinacoat| contemplativechristian

20. He is definitely a bad person based on your descriptions.

20. He is definitely a bad person based on your descriptions.Reddit/plsbemybf| charcoal soul

21. It was still cheating—emotional cheating, to be specific.

21. It was still cheating—emotional cheating, to be specific.Reddit/ih8uheaux| Carlos Ebert

22. She's lucky to have found a husband and a best friend.

22. She's lucky to have found a husband and a best friend.Reddit/CypripediumGuttatum| Waldo Jaquith

23. I also feel bad for his next victim.

23. I also feel bad for his next victim.Reddit/negative10000upvotes| Kimberly Vardeman

24. Consider it a red flag if a person is cruel toward animals.

24. Consider it a red flag if a person is cruel toward animals.Reddit/Comics4Cooks| David Goehring

25. PTSD is real from these types of relationships.

25. PTSD is real from these types of relationships.Reddit/smolgerardway| Simon_sees

26. Good thing you both gave each other a chance.

26. Good thing you both gave each other a chance.Reddit/FishinMommy| Lindsey Turner

27. That's just rude.

27. That's just rude.Reddit/Super_nerd53| Ed Yourdon

28. He probably thought he could buy you by paying for your lunch.

28. He probably thought he could buy you by paying for your lunch.Reddit/SoupLoops| Mike Mozart

29. Just being straightforward.

29. Just being straightforward.Reddit/mjsmore33| Travis Rigel Lukas Hornung

30. Take note if you meet self-proclaimed "nice guys".

30. Take note if you meet self-proclaimed Reddit/nakedonmygoat| Denise Mattox

Their experiences serve as a lesson for you to choose whom to date. There are billions of people in the world, so there's a great possibility that you'll meet someone who will show you what a real nice guy is.

You just have to learn to wait and know where to look because who knows? That someone might be a coworker, childhood friend, or a total stranger. Just don't let yourself settle for less than you deserve.

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