30 Women Share Their Experiences Of Giving A "Nice Guy" A Chance And How They Came Out The Other Side
Is it worth dating a nice guy? Considering the unofficial definition of a nice guy, no. However, some nice guys really are kind humans.
Some people look perfectly kind on the surface, until the relationship starts to feel off in ways that are hard to ignore. That is exactly why stories about self-proclaimed “nice guys” keep getting attention online.
In this case, a Reddit user asked women in r/AskReddit what happened when they gave a “nice guy” a chance, and the answers ranged from sweet to deeply unsettling. The post quickly drew thousands of reactions, with women sharing everything from red flags and manipulation to a few rare happy endings. Read on.
1. Be thankful you're not stuck with a disloyal person hiding behind a nice guy facade.
Reddit/Realistic-Ad5265| neajjean2. He was her savior from a high school heartbreak.
Reddit/nanasnuggets| Courtney Carmody3. A big and loud "NOPE!"
Reddit/Particular-Ad7034| Jeff Dlouhy
4. He is definitely not slowing down.
Reddit/Radiant_Obligation_3| Nick Webb
5. His mentality is messed up.
Reddit/Animefaerie| Alexa LaSpisa
6. He is invalidating your achievements and making you feel inferior.
Reddit/Unusual_Locksmith_91| Old Photo Profile
7. This is totally creepy.
Reddit/ayarbee| Piutus
8. Being pregnant with the nice guy's child.
Reddit/cottagelass,Janine
9. Oh no.
Reddit/LetsGoVovo| apnlivedigital
10. What a twisted storyteller.
Reddit/pannndora| Eric Chan
11. Kidnapped and assaulted, but got a chance to escape.
Reddit/bavelos| Micah Baldwin
12. Avoid anyone who tries to isolate you from your family and friends.
Reddit/Allys-post| Martin Stabenfeldt
It also echoes the AITA where someone set up their friend with their ex, then stayed silent.
13. Hoping you'll recover from that fear soon.
Reddit/CosmicHyena24| Alexa LaSpisa
14. That person does not know what love is.
Reddit/ilan_gyal| Andy Arthur
15. Hopefully, that's the end of their relationship.
Reddit/VenusSwift| Sara
16. He should know that a dating app is not a place to look for friends.
Reddit/gofish112| chany crystal
17. He would surely categorize all the women he used to date in that way.
Reddit/thegirlwhodied_| Tim Green
18. Did he date you to be his "best picture picker"?
Reddit/pinsnneedless| Ivan Radic
19. It is a predator's trap.
Reddit/4catsinacoat| contemplativechristian
20. He is definitely a bad person based on your descriptions.
Reddit/plsbemybf| charcoal soul
21. It was still cheating—emotional cheating, to be specific.
Reddit/ih8uheaux| Carlos Ebert
22. She's lucky to have found a husband and a best friend.
Reddit/CypripediumGuttatum| Waldo Jaquith
23. I also feel bad for his next victim.
Reddit/negative10000upvotes| Kimberly Vardeman
24. Consider it a red flag if a person is cruel toward animals.
Reddit/Comics4Cooks| David Goehring
25. PTSD is real from these types of relationships.
Reddit/smolgerardway| Simon_sees
26. Good thing you both gave each other a chance.
Reddit/FishinMommy| Lindsey Turner
27. That's just rude.
Reddit/Super_nerd53| Ed Yourdon
28. He probably thought he could buy you by paying for your lunch.
Reddit/SoupLoops| Mike Mozart
29. Just being straightforward.
Reddit/mjsmore33| Travis Rigel Lukas Hornung
30. Take note if you meet self-proclaimed "nice guys".
Reddit/nakedonmygoat| Denise Mattox
Their experiences serve as a lesson for you to choose whom to date. There are billions of people in the world, so there's a great possibility that you'll meet someone who will show you what a real nice guy is.
You just have to learn to wait and know where to look because who knows? That someone might be a coworker, childhood friend, or a total stranger. Just don't let yourself settle for less than you deserve.
Want to know if you should be honest about a friend dating your ex? Read whether telling your friend about their dating choices makes you the AH.
