Man Bars Partner’s Kids From Spending New Year’s Eve At Their Home After Chaotic Christmas Stay
One holiday was manageable. Two felt like too much.
Three years into their relationship, this couple had settled into a rhythm that worked for them. Both had demanding careers, limited downtime, and a shared understanding that holidays were rare chances to breathe and reconnect.
There was one major complication, though. The OP’s (Original Poster’s) husband had children from a previous marriage, and the situation around them was anything but simple.
The kids lived primarily with their mother, who struggled to accept her ex-husband’s se*uality and made it clear that the children should see themselves as having one mother and one father.
Because of that, the couple lived separately from the kids’ world. Holidays, family events, and even regular visits happened without OP…until this year.
Recently, OP’s husband’s ex-wife started warming up to him and even allowed the kids to go over to their place to spend Christmas.
It felt like a breakthrough. A sign of progress. While OP admitted that Christmas was fun with the kids, he pointed out that they were a handful to deal with.
There was constant fighting, messes that spilled into his workspace, and a level of stress that drained the joy from his time off.
So when New Year’s Eve came up, and the ex-wife asked for the kids to stay again, OP declined.
OP’s husband wasn’t happy with this stance. He felt it was only fair for the kids to spend time with them, especially given how accepting they have been of their relationship.
Now OP is questioning if his stance is justified, or if he’s just being selfish.
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Let’s dig into the details
A bit of backstory
OP isn’t enthusiastic about his husband’s kids spending New Year’s Eve with them. This is because they’re pretty stressful to deal with
OP’s husband feels his stance is not fair, and he should be more understanding
We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
“I think you seriously need to reconsider the obligations and responsibilities of being married to someone who has children.”
“YTA. You married a parent. Their kids should always be a priority!”
“If you don't welcome his kids fully anytime he can be with them, you shouldn't be with a person who has kids.”
“Your boyfriend has children, they will be a priority in his life.”
“YTA. Don’t date a guy with kids if you don’t want to be around the kids.”
The Reddit community has made it clear that if OP is eager to enjoy a relationship with a partner who has kids, then he must be 100% accepting of them.
One person even pointed out that if anything should happen to the ex-wife, then the kids will fully move into their house.
OP knew his partner had kids and still chose to be with them, so it makes sense to adjust to their presence.
What do you think about this story? Should personal limits come first, or do moments like this call for pushing through discomfort?
Tell us in the comments.
